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Jul 20, 2013, 07:35 PM
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So my husband asks me . Why do you need therapy? What's wrong with your life. Well I guess I suppose nothing in regards to I have a roof over my head, food on the table, you do not beat me.... It is not about that...It is about the way you found me(abused, neglected childhood, abused wife) and now I am trying to defrost and I do not cope the way normal people cope(he does know that. I hide it. Bulimia,self harm,past suicide, suicidal thoughts). I had no idea how to explain to him....everything I deal with inside my head.
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Jul 21, 2013, 09:52 AM
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Husband's can be difficult to explain to
 I was fortunate because my husband's and my reading/other interests are so different and he knows he doesn't "get" mine so now when I start one of my rambling explanations about something he'll interrupt and ask, "Am I going to understand this?" and I can say "No" and we talk about something else instead.If he asks what wrong with your life, that would be sort of easy if you just said, "Nothing is wrong with my life, I just have some problems dealing with myself and my attitude toward life" or something?
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Jul 21, 2013, 10:10 AM
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ha... when people have asked me that, first off, it annoys me. "What's wrong with your life?" often sounds like they're saying "get over it" or pointing out how much worse others have it - all of which I'm more than aware of. So when someone asks me a question like that, I tend to respond with "My brain".
If they happen to be asking in a manner that lets me believe that they're asking if there's anything that they could help me work on.. like an area of life where I'm not satsified and am trying to improve? Then maybe I'll tell them if there's anything. I will also frequently attempt to explain that I don't get to choose my mood - and that my mood doesn't always correspond to what's going on in my life. And that there is NO POINT in comparing my life and moods to anyone else - because this is my experience with life.
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Jul 22, 2013, 03:48 PM
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You are going to have to share it. Just do it from the Heart, and avoid accusations!
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