[indigo1015]

I need to talk to someone... FAST... my friends are all busy, they aren't answering their phones... my mom and dad will just be mean and/or obnoxious about it... I am in the process of setting up a shrink and a therapist, but I haven't done it yet (the flooding in the area is kind of delaying the process). I'm on this dating website, and I was chatting with a guy who chose to contact me - I didn't contact him first. I thought the conversation was going well, and then he types this:

"I'm gonna have to ask you a question. Are you really that overweight that you had to put it up there? Sorry, but it's kinda important to me."

Exactly how much extra weight qualifies here? I put "Overweight" in my specs on that website because it happens to be true. I put it in because I want to be honest with people about how I look, so that they don't waste either my time or theirs. If it's so damn important to him, why is he even chatting with me at all? Please don't misunderstand - everyone's entitled to their preferences. I recognize that. But that really hurt - can't people simply accept the fact that YES, I am overweight? And I'm sorry if it's important to you... it's important to me too, and I am trying to live a healthier lifestyle. But honestly, what's the point if all that happens as a result is that I'm considered "acceptable" by jerks like this?

I want to cry. I want to drink some more until my brain oozes out of my skull. I want to cut. Someone PLEASE help me, I have no one else to talk to.

Please don't allow one jerk to have control over you like this. If he is THAT shallow then he certainly isn't worth wasting your time. I'm sure you're a beautiful person on the inside as well as the outside. Don't abuse yourself because of one idiot. Take care of yourself

[indigo1015]

Thank you... I just wish I could say he WAS the only jerk...

Originally Posted by Cracking Slowly

Please don't allow one jerk to have control over you like this. If he is THAT shallow then he certainly isn't worth wasting your time. I'm sure you're a beautiful person on the inside as well as the outside. Don't abuse yourself because of one idiot. Take care of yourself

Hey, you can PM me if you still need someone to talk to.

I would just respond with something like:

"I'm gonna have to ask you a question. Are you really that inconsiderate and superficial[or whatever you think best describes him, but try to keep it classy...though it's very tempting to call him an a hole] that you have to ask me that? Sorry, but it's kinda important to me."

Originally Posted by indigo1015

Thank you... I just wish I could say he WAS the only jerk...

Those sites of full of jerks! Don't let anything they say go to your heart. When the right guy comes along you'll know it.

[SilverNeurotic]

Dating sites can be brutal. When I was on there there were so many times I found myself dealing with jerks. End the conversation and block him.

[indigo1015]

Yeah, I did that :-)

Originally Posted by SilverNeurotic

Dating sites can be brutal. When I was on there there were so many times I found myself dealing with jerks. End the conversation and block him.

He was a total superficial jerk. Don't let his ignorance make you feel bad. So you are overweight but it is what is on the inside that counts and if he couldn't even take a minute to get to know you, he isn't worth your time.
Sorry you are feeling so bad good on you for being honest and if he can't handle it, he has a problem it is called ignorance.

[Lmats]

I'm sure he won't be getting too many dates any time soon. You deserve much better than that jerk anyway. He has no idea what he just missed out on!