[Carolecool7]

Hello everybody,
The problem I'm having, is that I'm having a hard time moving on from a really enjoyable experience. Let me explain:
For school, we got a chance to go and shadow people in the workplace and see what they do for their job for only a week. I wanted it to be over, because I was going to a very industrialized huge plant area, but now I just want to go back.
You see, the people I met and the whole atmosphere of the place was amazing. Everyday I'd go with someone else and do some other job, and soon my fear of this place turned to fascination.
The people I met were great and made me feel great, because they were so funny and nice and great to be around, and they created this really awesome atmosphere where they worked. The jobs they did were alright, not something I see for myself, but I still found it interesting.
But now, the week is over, and I'm never going to experience that again. If I get a job there, it won't be the same, I won't be the student observing, I'm going to be the worker working. I can't go back, because I need to go back to school.

But the whole experience was amazing. I ended up loving the worksite, even though before I hated it, and I loved the people there.
It was just such an amazing and great experience, I'm having trouble letting it go and going back to normal life.
I'm never going to experience exactly that experience ever again, and it wish I could, but I can't. I probably won't see those people again, and that makes me terribly sad.

I just kind of walked into my house and just kind of broke down a little. That was the last day, the last time I'd ever experience that again. And I loved it so much, but I can't go back because it will never be the same again.

Today I just moped around, and felt bad. I really miss it, and it just makes me feel sad and depressed when I think about it, because I'll never go back.

But I also do this with other things too. Other events I love but can never experience again, and it kills me every time when I have to try to move on. These usually last a few days, and then I get over It, but it's just so hard for those few days.

I just need help or tips with dealing with this? I know, maybe it's a tad silly, but it's just hard for me. Is this a specific thing? Like an attachment problem or something? Is this called something?

I don't know, any advice is welcome. It's just hard for me to go back after experiencing something so different and wonderful.

I just can't seem to let go and move on like anyone else would, content with their memories. Instead, I have to get all sad and wish to go back.

Any help?

[Thunder Bow]

You can and will that same experience again, with other people at different places at different times in your life. Nothing is a one shot deal. Question about what all this is making you rubber band into, emotionally in side yourself. There may be some unresolved emotional issues you have.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Carole, it is really good that you had such a positive experience and it seems like you can get really passionate about things you enjoy, which can be a great asset in life.
And you know that you'll have other positive experiences along the way........I mean you said there have been other events you've loved too.......so they do keep coming given time.
And for example, if you decided to work there, sure it would be different, but with your enthusiasm........!!
And the people there would still be the same if they were still there, right? The same attributes, the same personalities, the same supportive nature......And you know what, there may be a point at which you'd be helping other people just like you when you visited, now tell me that wouldn't give you a bit of a "buzz"!!
Now I'm not saying that you should necessarily go and work there, just that there are plenty of opportunities out there for you to have positive experiences.
And you can carry over things you learn, or pick up from, some positive experiences along the way too. Now those things can be invaluable and so precious, don't loose them!!
Like, if the people gave you confidence-keep it, if they showed you there can be really good people in life-keep it, if you admired someone's ability to be friendly-keep it (learn from it), if you found you could do more than you thought-keep it, if you found that with a little effort things that seem not so good can change-keep it.
You know the experience hasn't gone, none of the good experiences you've had are gone- they're still/can still be right there inside you.
And a lot of the experiences you have can help you to create even more positive experiences if you use them. Let them guide you as well, to a point, they're going to help you in deciding just where and how you want your life to go. They're going to help you in making the choices in life that are going to make you feel fulfilled and hopefully happy.
So cherish the good times, and let them work for you.
Alison