[hurting__]

Nothing's happened to make me feel so bad tonight, but I'm down as ever. Everything is going well, I got a good mark on my first uni assignment, I've finally made myself study today, I've been for a lovely long walk along the river...but tonight I just feel down. I want to be happy. I would give anything to be happy. But I just can't. Has anyone got anything that cheers them up when they're stuck in their deep dark hole? Because I'm having a lot of trouble getting out of this one

[Beau_Duc]

Hey Hurting, dear friend, I know exactly how you feel. You said it in fewer words than I, because I tend to be long winded and used 10,000 words to say what 10 could do, but I have posted thoughts exactly like yours here. I too have a great life, great job, great family& friends, great home, peace of mind in religion etc, etc ...... There is nothing 'wrong' in my life that is a big deal. Yet, I am going through the darkest, deepest, worst depression of my life right now.

Friend, I am not here to whine about my issues, I hope you don't feel that about what I just posted. I only posted that so you know that you're certainly not alone. And tbh, your post gives me a bit of comfort, NOT at all because you're feeling bad (misery loves company, but not in my case. i'd not want anyone to experience what us with severe depression do) but because your post reminds me that there are others out there who deal with the same darkness I do. So I feel Im not alone in my struggle against this major depression.

So, you see my long-windedness now, and I'm sorry if this was a pointless reply to your message. But my intention is to let you know that I share the same painful, dark feelings and I know, truly know, just what you are going through. I'm having the worst past 6 months of my life, yet th things that normally define a persons happiness in life couldn't hardly be better for me

*hugs* my Aussie friend, and know that I hope and wish you the very best and a turn around in your situation really soon. Post all you want, there are many great and caring ppl here, and please feel free to PM myself or most anyone of the other fine folks here if you need to chat with someone.

Best wishes,

Beau_Duc

[hurting__]

Originally Posted by Beau_Duc

Hey Hurting, dear friend, I know exactly how you feel. You said it in fewer words than I, because I tend to be long winded and used 10,000 words to say what 10 could do, but I have posted thoughts exactly like yours here. I too have a great life, great job, great family& friends, great home, peace of mind in religion etc, etc ...... There is nothing 'wrong' in my life that is a big deal. Yet, I am going through the darkest, deepest, worst depression of my life right now.

Friend, I am not here to whine about my issues, I hope you don't feel that about what I just posted. I only posted that so you know that you're certainly not alone. And tbh, your post gives me a bit of comfort, NOT at all because you're feeling bad (misery loves company, but not in my case. i'd not want anyone to experience what us with severe depression do) but because your post reminds me that there are others out there who deal with the same darkness I do. So I feel Im not alone in my struggle against this major depression.

So, you see my long-windedness now, and I'm sorry if this was a pointless reply to your message. But my intention is to let you know that I share the same painful, dark feelings and I know, truly know, just what you are going through. I'm having the worst past 6 months of my life, yet th things that normally define a persons happiness in life couldn't hardly be better for me

*hugs* my Aussie friend, and know that I hope and wish you the very best and a turn around in your situation really soon. Post all you want, there are many great and caring ppl here, and please feel free to PM myself or most anyone of the other fine folks here if you need to chat with someone.

Best wishes,

Beau_Duc

Thank you very much for your lovely kind words, I really needed that and it really means a lot to me, keep your head up, and I'm always here if you need a chat as well, thank you again

Hi hurting. I'm sorry you feel the way you do. Sometimes depression will strike us when everything is seemingly going well. This is what happened to me in early August - - depression out of nowhere. It has progressed to the point now where it has become debilitating. As another poster said, just want you to know you're not alone in your struggle. Please keep posting; we're here for you!

[BeaFlower]

Hi hurting! I don't have depression, but recentely it happened also to me to feel sad without a reason...in these cases it seams really difficult to find what could make you feel happier. In that occasion I came here to talk with some friends...as you made with this thread . It helped me...hope that it's the same for you. Bad moments pass .
If I can give you an advice, a thing that you can do when you happen to feel down it's to do something that you like but isn't tiring and doesn't require much concentration...for example going for a walk, watching a nice TV program or reading a book, or something else...also if you have to study or to do other things, it's worth taking a day to relax if you need.
But I don't know how often you happen this...if it happens very often maybe it's difficult to take a pause every time. I don't know if this post can help you ...but I hope so . Hugs

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by hurting__

Nothing's happened to make me feel so bad tonight, but I'm down as ever. Everything is going well, I got a good mark on my first uni assignment, I've finally made myself study today, I've been for a lovely long walk along the river...but tonight I just feel down. I want to be happy. I would give anything to be happy. But I just can't. Has anyone got anything that cheers them up when they're stuck in their deep dark hole? Because I'm having a lot of trouble getting out of this one

dear friend, i have found that music helps me out a lot when i'm feeling that way
i put on some of my favorite upbeat music and it really helps a lot. it's hard at times to get out of the rut when you're feeling down though, but that is one thing that helps when i let it!

[TheOriginalMe]

Spending time with animals is soothing for me.

[donica_14]

I felt the maybe hidden message in what you said was that you "should" feel happy because your life is going well. Sort of accusing yourself of not being a good person because instead of being happy in response to the good things in your life, you feel sad and down.

All I can say is that is how I feel a lot of the times, I go around and say to myself 'well at least I don't have cancer' or 'people have things so much worse than me, what is my problem?' and I guess that's probably not helping me get any better.

I am seriously thinking about getting a dog once I get settled in a new place to live (lost my home due to breaking up with fiancee). I am thinking the unconditional love and companionship, plus the ability to have the warmth of snuggling with a dog, will help me a lot. I would say my loneliness is the severest part of my depression, followed by the hopelessness. And then follows the blaming game! Don't know if that is helpful - hope you are feeling a little better. Best wishes, Donna

[hurting__]

Originally Posted by donica_14

I felt the maybe hidden message in what you said was that you "should" feel happy because your life is going well. Sort of accusing yourself of not being a good person because instead of being happy in response to the good things in your life, you feel sad and down.

All I can say is that is how I feel a lot of the times, I go around and say to myself 'well at least I don't have cancer' or 'people have things so much worse than me, what is my problem?' and I guess that's probably not helping me get any better.

I am seriously thinking about getting a dog once I get settled in a new place to live (lost my home due to breaking up with fiancee). I am thinking the unconditional love and companionship, plus the ability to have the warmth of snuggling with a dog, will help me a lot. I would say my loneliness is the severest part of my depression, followed by the hopelessness. And then follows the blaming game! Don't know if that is helpful - hope you are feeling a little better. Best wishes, Donna

Thank you Donna, that really means a lot to me, thank you!