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Old May 31, 2014, 06:57 AM
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Been having a struggle of many misunderstandings with my daughter. It seems year after year there are hurt feelings and missed opportunities for kindness and mutual caring. Right now it justs hurts a lot .
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Old May 31, 2014, 09:05 AM
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Old May 31, 2014, 04:03 PM
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What a hurting day. My grown up girl is angry and aiming it at me!
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Old May 31, 2014, 04:38 PM
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She will figure it out one day. I was so mean to my mom sometimes. She is gone. I cannot take that back - but she was kind and forgiving. May you feel loved in someway.
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Old May 31, 2014, 05:22 PM
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I'm sorry PianogirlPlays. I have to admit that I have an almost non-existent relationship with my mom. She didn't even know about my mental illnesses, abuse or rape until 8 years after my diagnosis. When I did tell her, her immediately response was why she was the last to know. Argh!!!

Your daughter may be dealing with some of her own issues. Have you thought about sending her a handwritten letter letting her know how much you love and care about her, and reassure her you are there for her?
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I'm sorry PianogirlPlays. I have to admit that I have an almost non-existent relationship with my mom. She didn't even know about my mental illnesses, abuse or rape until 8 years after my diagnosis. When I did tell her, her immediately response was why she was the last to know. Argh!!!

Your daughter may be dealing with some of her own issues. Have you thought about sending her a handwritten letter letting her know how much you love and care about her, and reassure her you are there for her?
Just did send her the most reassuring letters ever written. She twisted everything and just kept on aiming at me. I have an appointment tomorrow to get some help..I am hurt, angry and suffering. She has done this before and I have now come to the understanding that in her pain I have become her outlet. Trouble is in my own situation I can't seem to deal with it much anymore.
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She will figure it out one day. I was so mean to my mom sometimes. She is gone. I cannot take that back - but she was kind and forgiving. May you feel loved in someway.
Yes, I think it is important to feel loved myself. I know what you mean though. I had struggles of my own with my Mom. Gone long ago now but I did try to do well by her. Just slipped a couple of times.
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My daughter just recently moved out of the house and hadn't wanted to include me much into her life, so I can relate to be saddened by your daughter, pianogirlplays. It's tough when all your life you cared and took care of your child, and then they are gone, just like that. I know her moving out and has contributed a lot to my recent depression episode.
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Just did send her the most reassuring letters ever written. She twisted everything and just kept on aiming at me. I have an appointment tomorrow to get some help..I am hurt, angry and suffering. She has done this before and I have now come to the understanding that in her pain I have become her outlet. Trouble is in my own situation I can't seem to deal with it much anymore.
Getting help!!! So happy for you. An objective other can be so helpful as you go through all this.
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