[HelpToBetterMyself]

I'm having a really rough day. My appearance and weight was attacked during a confrontation because I asked someone to stop doing something they were not allowed to do. I don't understand what my weight has to do with someone else breaking a rule. In my head I know that it has no relevance and that the other person was just lashing out because they don't know how to just admit that they were wrong. But I have a REALLY hard time letting things like that go. They completely ruin my day. They make me want to not talk to anyone (because in my state of mind, I feel like it would be better for everyone), and just stay in my house forever. Everyone just tries to cheer me up, but what I really need is to talk about what just happened. How do some of you cope and figure out how to let something go so that you can move on with your day and not let one ignorant person completely ruin your mood?

[kaliope]

it is just as you said. it was an ignorant person who could not accept they had done wrong so they were diverting the focus of attention onto you. you just have to keep telling yourself that over and over everytime you think about it. that this is not about you. it is about them. eventually it will get easier to let go. welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[waggiedog]

Hello dear ''HTBM''. I'm, so sorry and disgusted by that despicable individual who was so rude to you. I feel angry on your belhalf, but by the sounds of it you didn't rise to the bate and that makes YOU the special one and the person looked small. Yes, it IS absolutely the case, they KNEW they were in the wrong, thus diverting the conversation away from themselves, and only aimed it at you because you witnessed their wrong doing. However, I very much DO UNDERSTAND why you were hurt and shocked that this idiot, so would I be as I'm very sensitive about my looks and weight. I'd have kept going over it too. OK, that's fair enough to have been upset for the rest of that day. But now it's gone, hard as it is, you must put it behind you because even if it hadn't been you, they'd have been just as rude to someone else who caught them. The person isn't worth wasting your thinking time!! You can say whatever you like to me tho and I will probably agree!! HUGS and LOVES.

[(JD)]

Right, people try to put the focus away from themselves. I am curious though, was it your place to correct them? It may have been a way of telling you to mind your own business i.e. take care and get a healthy weight (in their opinion.)

[PianogirlPlays]

So hard to get rid of junk. I get entangled. I write it down. I remind myself of helpful quotes. I work at it but in the end I have to still let it go and go on.

[Bumblebuzz12]

I'm so sorry someone said something that mean to you. Unfortunately you are letting whoever said that to you win.
What I do sometimes when I'm feeling very angry or stressed or whatever I take a hot shower or a scented bubble bath. I pretend that I am washing away all the negative feelings.
Also if you have a fireplace you can write that person's name down and whatever he/she did to on a piece of paper then throw it into the fire and let it burn. If you don't have fireplace you can just rip it up and throw it away. It works just as well.
If you know this person quite well go up to them and let them know that you did not appreciate what they said to you. You will not be spoken to that way and the next time it happens their gonna have a problem.
Don't be mean but let them know that you are serious.
Hope this helped

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by HelpToBetterMyself

I'm having a really rough day. My appearance and weight was attacked during a confrontation because I asked someone to stop doing something they were not allowed to do. I don't understand what my weight has to do with someone else breaking a rule. In my head I know that it has no relevance and that the other person was just lashing out because they don't know how to just admit that they were wrong. But I have a REALLY hard time letting things like that go. They completely ruin my day. They make me want to not talk to anyone (because in my state of mind, I feel like it would be better for everyone), and just stay in my house forever. Everyone just tries to cheer me up, but what I really need is to talk about what just happened. How do some of you cope and figure out how to let something go so that you can move on with your day and not let one ignorant person completely ruin your mood?

For me it is coming to grips with how I feel about myself. It's an on-going process. People who say or do mean things are revealing something about themselves. You could have replied "So you not only broke the XYZ rule; you're just plain mean. What a pity" and then walked away. I generally avoid people who are consistently mean, sneaky and under-handed. I am far less bothered by some random occurrence from someone I will likely never see again. You're welcome to come here and talk about the things that happen.

[justme401]

Dont let them get to you, they arent worth your time. Trust me I know its hard, I let everything get to me even when it shouldnt. People like to belittle other people to feel good about themselves.

[RiseSink]

I feel your pain.