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Jul 17, 2014, 11:00 PM
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How do you stop being in love with someone? Someone who you feel so different about than any other person you've ever met. Is it possible to ever not love someone, does it get stronger the longer you don't see them?
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Jul 18, 2014, 10:27 AM
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This, of course is not in referral to a horrible, abusive person....there, the tendancy is to turn love into hate, but as hate IS an emotion in and of itself, it's still residual to what the love had been. The only way to truly hate someone, is to not care about them at all, anymore....if you don't care...literally are oblivious to them and their place (previous or current) in your life, then that is truly loss of love IMHO. I hope this answers your question. 
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Jul 18, 2014, 11:59 AM
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Being away from someone definitely makes your wanting of them stronger the next time you see them. But if you go long enough without talking or seeing someone, your feelings tend to diminish. Your mind stops thinking about them as much. You begin to forget them and forget how you felt about them. The heart lets go after a while.
I'm saying this from the point of view of someone who hasn't found anybody special. If this person is like, your soul mate.. maybe it's a different story.
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Jul 18, 2014, 05:43 PM
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Time does have a healing effect. But, if you are trying to fall out of love with someone that is bad for you then you need to stay strong. I call them Toxic Relationships. I have had a few in my life. I will share one of the most resent experience with you.
I had to remove my older brother from my life. As much as this hurt me I understood that his judgmental and disrespectful outlook on me and my situations were toxic to me. That for me to be happy, I must remove him from my life. I still love him, he is my brother, but I must keep him out of my life. Not knowing more about what's going on with you this is the best advice I can give. Clemfan |
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Jul 19, 2014, 08:27 AM
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Not sure how long this person has been in your life...but someone I loved more than anyone else thus far (7+ years) - let go. It took me almost 2 years - the pain was less with time. I will always love him...but he holds a place in my brain/heart and that is ok...it's not painful anymore. The more you hold on to the romantic thoughts makes it harder to get over them.
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Jul 19, 2014, 09:14 AM
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You concentrate on doing something else important to you, meet other people, fall in love with someone else. Concentrating on what you don't/can't have just reinforces the connection. That's why a lot of us are "stuck" in the past, we are looking the "wrong" direction to move "forward".
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