[Lissanya]

My brother died 9 months ago. He was 22, he had a blood clot in his small intestine and he was bleeding internally. My father and I took him to the hospital, were we were told that he had a simple food poisoning and he was a spoiled brat who needed to have some sense slapped into him. He came home that night and died in my father's arms because he'd become septic.

On July 30th, my dad was diagnosed with accute leukemia. His white blood cell count shot up to 290000 and he died on August 1st. I'm pretty sure my brother's death had a lot to do with that.

While I'm struggling to cope with all of this, I also have to deal with my dad's "business" if you can call it that. My dad owned cattle. Because I'm a girl, he thought that I had no business being around them but he told me that he wanted me to keep them before he died. Now, I need to find someone who can work for me because there are things I couldn't do if I wanted to. My father has a house in his village, which is right next to where the stable is. I can afford to hire two workers and let them live for free in our house and only check up on them, like many people here do.

But here's the problem: my dad let his sister stay in his house for 5 years. It's been 30 years and she still lives there. He payed all her bills, gave her money so she'd work for him (she didn't work and she told everyone that he didn't pay her), he bought her everything she needed and she stole all his money every day. She didn't even cook, my mom used to cook for her in-laws and she also ended up cooking for my aunt, her husband and her three children. In return, my aunt gave us eggs from hens that she fed with food that my dad bought for his calves. My dad kept hiring workers and letting them stay in a part of the house his sister, didn't use. Her husband would beat the workers and they'd leave. My dad didn't mind at all. They took advantage of him all the time and my dad just let them do it.

They even abused his mother, whose pension they also stole. Even the kids ended up hitting her and my uncle also felt her up. At some point, she got heart failure and they gave her pills that caused her dehudration. Her kidneys started failing because of the pills and my dad took her to the hospital (because her grandaughters and grandsons all thought that she was old, so they'd rather let her die than drive 30 minutes to the hospital). They got her kidneys working and she went back to her house. A doctor went with her and explained to my aunt and uncle how the pills worked. He told them to never give her those pills again and to give her water. He also told them that if she kept taking the pills, she would die from dehydration. Well, they kept giving her pills until she died. My dad said nothing again. They killed my grandma and he didn't say anything, so he wouldn't get into a fight. It's driving me insane.

He gave her son cattle for free, so he'd get money from the EU, build a stable and then give the 25000 euros the cattle were worth to my dad. He got the money but he never gave it to my dad. He also didn't build his own stable, my mom payed for it. And on top of that, he never buys food or salt, etc for his own cattle, my dad pays for that, too. In return, my cousin was supposed to gather them and return them to the stable at night and then give them water and feed the calves that were too young to leave the stable. Well, he never gave them water and he often lost cows. For what he does, he gets 15000 euros a year and my aunt tells everyone that my father didn't help him at all because it's not like the money comes from his pocket. Her son should be grateful to the EU but he owns her brother nothing.

Now that my dad is gone, I have to work with them because they're the only ones who know the job, as nobody else owns cattle in my village and nobody else owns free range cattle in my town. I'm looking for a worker who knows the job but they're not easy to come by, especially until the end of August. Until then, my cousin is the only one who works there. I can't even drive yet, so I can't go check up on him.

Last night, I saw on facebook that he's gone on a vacation. He didn't tell me anything about it. I don't know who's looking after the animals now, if anyone is. I'm really worried. So, I said that to my aunt (not his mom) and she started screaming at me. She actually called me to convince me to not hire a worker, like she does every day. She started saying all the usual racist, xenophobig, bigoted things she always says and I told her that I need someone who'll let me know what's going on, unlike her nephew who got up and left even though he's the only one who can work there. She went into screaming mode right away.

She said that my grandfather worked for the fortune and I'm not his only granddaughter, my cousin is his grandson, too. My cousin also met my grandpa and he loved him, whereas he never met me and it's not like he's looking after me from where he is because I'm a useless stranger to him. She also said that my cousin doesn't want to bother me with the animals because he thinks that I'm grieving but he doesn't know that I'm a snake, who's only thinking about her fortune when her dad just died. I tried to explain that I'm worried about my "fortune" because they're living beings who need to eat and drink and be protected from wolves, etc and not a store that I can close down and not care about the running expenses. She then proceeded to tell me that it's not my fortune, my dad never did anything to deserve what he had and because I'm a pos and an ingrate, she and her sisters are going to take everything for me and stop considering me a niece. Apparently, they're only letting me keep the ~fortune~ my dad created (by working 18 hours a day, every day for 30 years) out of pity but I don't deserve anything.

This isn't even half of what my dad's sisters have done. They've been taking advantage of him since he was 14. I know that my dad let them and that it's none of my business, etc but it does make me mad. The fact that my father is dead and all they care about is making sure that they'll be able to take advantage of me, like they did with my dad infuriates me. I've never been violent, I can't even bear to watch violence on tv but I want to beat them until my arms fall off. I want to kick my aunt out of my dad's house and kick her son out of my dad's stable. Thanks to my dad, they have more money than I could ever dream of, they don't need to be there anyway.

I guess this is too long and it's probably incoherent but I'm just raging so hard right now and I need advice and I don't know where to get it from. My mom's side of the family could help but my mom is an abusive Narcissist who's been making up lies about everyone and trying to make herself into a victim her entire life. Her relatives only know her lies, so they won't be objective. Plus, they don't like me that much because she's been lying about me, too. I talk to my friends and half of them say that I should kick them all out and the other half say that I need to put up with them like my dad did.

I wanted to hire someone who'll also sign a contract on the house. The cotract would say that he's renting the house, the rent is coming out of his salary and he also agrees to keep my aunt there for free unless she's trying to make his life impossible and kick him out. Now I'm just scared. I don't think I'll be able to legally and calmly do what I need to do while they're there.

If anyone has any advice, please share?

[Thunder Bow]

Time to see a Lawyer First. To many legal issues for you to deal with unassisted. Also seek therapy to help you cope with the emotional issues.

[Lissanya]

I'm definitely going to a lawyer. I'm waiting for the contract to the house. My grandpa never made a will and my grandma couldn't because she was afraid of her son-in-law. After she died, my dad managed to get them to sign the house over to him but he never made a contract. He had to move the cows from his house because my uncle started killing them as payback. They also stopped speaking to him. I'm convinced that this is the only reason why he didn't give them the house. Other than that, they really don't have any claim over my dad's cows, regardless of what his sister said.

The emotional issues are the ones I really need to adress but I can't go to therapy because I can't afford it right now and I don't have access to free therapy in my town. I'm too afraid to deal with all of them, though. The aunt who lives in the village and her twin sister will definitely try and make my life a living hell. My dad hasn't even been dead for a month yet and none of them cares enough to even pick up a phone and ask how we're doing. Only the stupidest of the three calls every day to try and manipulate us into giving everything to her twin sister.

Today all I did was say that my cousin should have called me and let me know that he was going on a vacation and either tell me that the animals were taken care of or ask me to help him find a worker, anything. I shouldn't have to find a post on fb saying that he's on a vacation and not be able to contact anyone and find out who's tending to the animals. Is that so terrible? Should she start screaming that nothing belongs to me, that I'm a stranger and they're only putting up with me because they loved their brother over that? Tell me that I didn't love my dad because his eyes are still open and all I care about is ~the fortune? Can you imagine what comes next?

[Thunder Bow]

Family Trouble seems to intense for you. The Loss of your Father is playing tricks on your mind. Grief is very much at play here. Give your self some space from family for now. Try a vacation for a few weeks, far away from home for awhile, to give your mind time to sort feelings, and all out. Leave the phone at home and the computer.

If you can't travel, then turn off the phone, lock the computer away, and give yourself some space and time, to sort things out. Right now you need separation from family, and peace and beauty around you, for now.