[8thstreetbungalow]

I have some anger problems that I've been working out
What are some tips for instant anger and rage.

[kaliope]

to first realize that it isn't instant...........

that you have thoughts and feelings that lead to the anger........

anger is a secondary emotion...you have another emotion first that you are uncertain how to deal with so you RESPOND in anger instead. this could be frustration, sadness, grief, confusion, fear. identify that emotion and deal with it and you will not be angry.

identify your triggers. what are the things that make you angry? avoid them

what are your signs of anger? increased heart rate, flushed cheeks, clenched fist, clenched teeth..........notice when you are doing these things and take yourself out of the situation you are in to calm down.

[Crazy Hitch]

My therapist gave me the:

B
W
S

method.

Control your Breathing.
Write it all down
Speak to my T about it

[kaater]

Not sure if this reply will take because I've replied 2 other times and I guess there's a quota one meets and then you cannot post (for how long?)
Anyway about anger:
Anger drove into the back of my car, flipping me up in the air approx 5 ft (as witness' attested to) and when the car bounced back down, it broke my back in two places and fractured my neck.
Anger was looking out his side window even though the window was closed, yelling at a person who was honking their horn and that "pissed" the "anger" off.
Anger wasn't aware that the car was actually helping him as they saw he was headed straight towards my car with definite impact.
Anger apologized but when it came time to admit his actions, he denied it all and even said he didn't even recall this accident. He had a front end that was in definite need of repair but it was his employers car and my guess he fixed it w/o the employers knowledge.
Anger, my thoughts about anger, anger's life hasn't changed as he's able to do whatever he wishes and my life as it was will never be again.
Anger, please, please find your wound. If you want to find your purpose in life, you must find your wound. That wound could be child abuse, neglect or bullying anything in your past that has left you with this anger, which by the way, is another name for "hurt". People get hurt and cannot admit they are hurt about something so this makes them angry because that seems to be an emotion one accepts. So change yourself by finding what wounded you in your past and you will be set free!
Good luck
Katy

For me, as soon as I get angry, changing my stance (if standing, I try to sit down) to a more comfortable position helps. Also another thing (mentioned above) is to breathe and having some water also calms down.

The situations and people that enrage you, you should try to identify these and then it is better to avoid such situations/people. If anything happens, distancing yourself from the situation also helps you recover and think rationally.

Hope these help!