[PianogirlPlays]

The struggle with my daughter. The pain involved in relationships. Is all built up inside of me. I have talked about it with my counselor. It hurts and I feel powerless to change it. I wish I could talk to my daughter but in truth I can't. I wish I could find the key to unlock the relationship and put me at ease. We have exchanged a few emails but no phone conversations as she has limited the contact. Honestly, the struggle is great, but I don't think I deserve to be treated that way. However, maybe since I am so uptight it is better. Hope I can find a little peace and wait out the difficulty.

[Open Eyes]

Hi PianogirlPlays, sorry you have a challenged relationship with your daughter. Can I ask how old your daugher is?

The age of a child is important tbh. I have gone through some challenges myself, however, I know my daughter really did not understand PTSD either. I did my best to raise her, but no parent is "perfect". I made sure that when I did talk to her that I did not just reply "defensively", but instead did my best to listen to "her" hurts. Because I learned to "listen" and validate her feelings, it made her more open to understanding the "reasons" why certain things were not perfect.

Right now it is important that you work on yourself and "heal". Even that is showing your daughter something you may not realize. They sure do learn a lot from us.

[PianogirlPlays]

I agree that being a listener is a big help..she really doesn't get it if I share anything about me. I wish this wasn't bothering me so.