[supernaught16]

I love my ex girlfriend. I love her so much. I did the dumping and I let her go. I haven't seen her for over two months. Last time I spoke to her was when she called me October 19 and I answered the phone, "I never want to talk to you or see you again." And She called a few times after that. I got a missed call from a private number this week too. I miss her so much. I can't call her. I can't email her. The things she did to me to drive her out of my life are things that I don't feel comfortable speaking about any human. She did some things I never even knew was in human nature. I'm talking some really, really, I don't know if it's sick, I don't know if it's evil, I don't know if it's wild and out of control, I don't know but things she did I can never, ever, ever ever, ever x 100 back into my life. But I do love her and miss the person I knew. I don't know what to do.

[Lostdeepinspace]

I am sorry you are feeling this way. Sometimes love hurts but in time you will heal! I am here if you need someone to talk to. No judgement what so ever. Sometimes the best medicine is to let it out and start your healing process big hugs!

[sideblinded]

Hi supernaught16

I feel your pain. It is so hard when we are missing someone in our life that we care for. I have had a lot of loss in my life and I know this is very painful.



I wish the best for you.

[Frankbtl]

Hi supernaught, I'm really sorry the relationship turned out as it did and she clearly put you through a lot
But real kudos for managing to end it and sticking with staying away from the relationship/holding with your standards/what you know is right, it sounds like exactly the right thing to do although I'm sure it must hurt a lot.
Right now, you're probably grieving the person you knew at the beginning, the person she is without that side to her (although there's no getting away from the fact that that side is there) and the loss of the relationship. And it will take time to go through that process, to let go...........but just know that you've done the right thing by ending it.
Now you're probably going to feel a multitude of feelings.........sadness, emptiness, anger, betrayal, wanting her back, pain, frustration and some of those you may need to feel/go through in working through it all, but just as much you need to focus on you as well e.g. trying to do things for yourself.........things you could enjoy..........different activities...........spending time with friends or other people................
But some of those things she did to you...........they sound pretty bad...........you might need to talk to someone about them, do you think?? It sounds like you've been through a lot and those things might have a big/longer term effect on you, and hey you know "bottling things up" can just make them so much worse, right??
But in your own time if it might help, if you can manage it, alright?? There might be someone in your life you can gradually confide in, it might take a professional, or you can always talk to us you know.

Alison

[Lostdeepinspace]

Originally Posted by Frankbtl

Hi supernaught, I'm really sorry the relationship turned out as it did and she clearly put you through a lot
But real kudos for managing to end it and sticking with staying away from the relationship/holding with your standards/what you know is right, it sounds like exactly the right thing to do although I'm sure it must hurt a lot.
Right now, you're probably grieving the person you knew at the beginning, the person she is without that side to her (although there's no getting away from the fact that that side is there) and the loss of the relationship. And it will take time to go through that process, to let go...........but just know that you've done the right thing by ending it.
Now you're probably going to feel a multitude of feelings.........sadness, emptiness, anger, betrayal, wanting her back, pain, frustration and some of those you may need to feel/go through in working through it all, but just as much you need to focus on you as well e.g. trying to do things for yourself.........things you could enjoy..........different activities...........spending time with friends or other people................
But some of those things she did to you...........they sound pretty bad...........you might need to talk to someone about them, do you think?? It sounds like you've been through a lot and those things might have a big/longer term effect on you, and hey you know "bottling things up" can just make them so much worse, right??
But in your own time if it might help, if you can manage it, alright?? There might be someone in your life you can gradually confide in, it might take a professional, or you can always talk to us you know.

Alison

This is a great post. Lots of insight on what your going to need to deal with. Be strong. You will come out of this on top!