[cremedelacreme]

I CANNOT Control my anger and emotions. I went off Paxil two weeks ago and have only lashed out at my boyfriend uncontrollably since then. We haven't had a normal conversation. All fighting. I cannot settle down. Once I start fighting it's never enough for me to back down. I scream at the top of my lungs until I cry.

I tried to make an appointment with a psychiatrist but they cannot see me for more than a month. My PCP is on vacation for the holiday. This can't wait a week. I need help before my relationship is ruined. I'm angry over EVERYTHING. What should i do since I cannot see anyone?? Please, please help.

[jelly-bean]

Try going to an Urgent Care or to the local ER. Also, there are crisis centers and if you talk to them maybe they can tell you where to go for help right now.

[KristenRenee]

Originally Posted by cremedelacreme

I CANNOT Control my anger and emotions. I went off Paxil two weeks ago and have only lashed out at my boyfriend uncontrollably since then. We haven't had a normal conversation. All fighting. I cannot settle down. Once I start fighting it's never enough for me to back down. I scream at the top of my lungs until I cry.

I tried to make an appointment with a psychiatrist but they cannot see me for more than a month. My PCP is on vacation for the holiday. This can't wait a week. I need help before my relationship is ruined. I'm angry over EVERYTHING. What should i do since I cannot see anyone?? Please, please help.

I don't know if this will help you but it sure has helped me a lot. I journal my feelings. I type my journal on line instead of writing because I'm a better typist than a writer. This has really helped me. Also, Prayer! I don't know if you believe in that or not but it sure helps me. Good luck and take care.

[wolfgaze]

Do you live with your BF? Can you two keep your distance from one another while you are withdrawing from the Paxil? Have you researched how withdrawal from this prescription drug may affect you and what types of withdrawal symptoms others have reported? Perhaps the two of you can research this together and doing so will help to 'cool' the emotions of these exchanges because you will acknowledge the situational context/circumstances that are contributing to this experience?

What about exercise or taking a long walk to help burn off excess energy that may be building up? Writing about your emotions or what you're feeling inside? Talking to a trusted friend/family member? I assume this is not your 'normal' behavior so please keep reminding yourself that this will pass, that it's only temporary and you just need to hang in there and work your way through this.

[allme]

I have a terrible temper and the only thing that seems to help is acknowledging my anger is disproportionate to the situation and I also try to walk away (which is sooooo hard!) and tell myself I will deal with the matter once calm.

It is also helpful to acknowledge flaming up gets you nowhere other than some very short lived satisfaction at the time. If you can, acknowledge the anger, walk away and tell yourself you will deal with it once you have calmed down. Also remind yourself how hurtful this is the person on the receiving end of the rage. I don't know about you but I had terrible feelings of remorse and guilt after a flare up and also remind myself of that.

I wish you all the best and hope this passes quickly for you!

[avlady]

deep breathe if possible and try to overcome the anger feeling until you're ready to communicate

[codetta]

Cremedelacreme: don't overwhelm yourself with this whole situation, just try and make the best choices you can - one choice at a time.

Once you've withdrawn from Paxil, you'll feel much calmer.

I get so mad so easily it's just ridiculous. I have come to feel embarrassed with myself, but whatever, I can do better next time!

And each time you make a choice, it's a fresh new start: your boyfriend will get over this, he'll just be glad that you have calmed down.

Don't force yourself to have to review your actions and feel bad about them right now, just allow yourself to change in the way you want to change.

I understand that there are other factors in your problem - you aren't on paxil right now, and that makes one feel differently. But you need to change gears, from what it sounds like.

Sometimes soft music makes me feel guilty for how angry I've been, BUT: it calms me down and helps me to stop lashing out. Instead of Hulk smash, Hulk smile and pet bunny.

Focus on something else: the reason exercise gets mentioned so much is because when you direct that energy towards something else, you get rid of it in a healthy manner. You can also try reading. And yes: sometimes not being around someone for a little while can help, too. Then you can cool off and try again when you aren't feeling as angry.

Sometimes concentrating on something else can be a big help: texting with a friend or chatting online, watching a funny movie (laughter will help you be less angry!), painting, pulling some weeds out of a garden, taking a relaxing bath - anything to change the focus to something else.

I hope that the feelings of rage can go away for you, it must be very tough.