I've gone from bottling up anger, not being able to express it or really feel it, to feeling it way too much. I can't escape the sensation of feeling very wronged by things that frustrate me. I don't know what to do with it (anger). It was wrong before when I let people take advantage of me but it's wrong now when I react. Maybe I'm too critical of people... when I feel like I can't count on them, when they disrupt my peace. I've gone from not asserting myself at all to feeling the need to control the space I inhabit and feeling weak when I inevitably can't... which in turn leaves me disgusted with myself because it's a reminder of when I let people walk all over me.

Sometimes I'm afraid I was a better person when I was depressed and self destructive. Now that I'm trying to take steps toward my own health & well being, and trying to problem solve instead of floating around aimlessly; I get really frustrated when I perceive that someone is making that harder for me. I guess patience and tolerance aren't as virtuous if you don't value your life- they are more of a gift when you care for yourself along with others.

It's confusing... I'm supposed to notice it and feel it but not act on it...

[gayleggg]

I am about the same. I used to bottle up my anger and now it just seems to ooze out. And I don't know how to control it. I practice deep breathing exercises to help me calm down before I release the anger on another person because it is usually over the top and not in relation to the incident.

[AzulOscuro]

Perhaps, I'm wrong with this, I'm also learning to cope with my emotions.
I think a common mistake we often make is taking other people acts personally.

I had a coworker yelling at me and I thought that she behad like that bc it was me. Then, I saw that it was her way.

We have to set ourselves in a high positions and give us time to think if it's worthy to face (in an assertive way, of course) to a person.
There are people who are very difficult to talk bc they only see a way.
In the example I put, I waited to see how my coworker is in real, bc I didn't know her very well and now I have learnt to accept her in the way she is. She didn't have bad intentions towards me. Now, that I know her better, I see the positive in her as well.

Sorry for my English!