[divine1966]

Just to give a general idea I am 48 so not a kid lol but this is ongoing story of my life no matter my age. My parents are not elderly and are in great health.

. I recently had very traumatic experience ( was financially scammed badly for large amount of money and am very emotionally traumatized) emailed my parents and told my mom that I have hard time saying it on the phone or in person if they could read my email and respond ( I indicated that I want only emotional support nothing else but I have to say my parents to are very well off in case they worried I want money, I've been on my own for the past 30 years and never want nothing)

It all happened on Friday today is Tuesday still no response. When I told my brother he was at my house in 30 minutes and was at my place on and off for two days until I calmed down. My adult daughter is a constant moral support too but my parents wouldn't even acknowledge. So evil

Both my daughter and my brother are grossed out by parents and their behavior but that is how they have always been. I am hurt

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[palerefraction]

Goodness, divine! I'm sorry that happened to you. I wish I knew what would help you but I struggle with the same issue. Take care of yourself!

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[AzulOscuro]

Hola, Divine!
I'm sorry that you are going through this bad economical situation.
I was going to ask you if your parents were always like this but I read it at the end of your post.

Why you don't daré to visit your parents and talk with them in person?
Don't you feel welcome to your parents' house?

[Frankbtl]

Hi divine, as if it wasn't/isn't bad enough going through that experience, you must have felt very let down by your parents too at a time you needed their support and reached out to them. I'm really sorry you had to go through all of that
But if we're definately assuming that they/one of them read the e-mail then just make sure you remember it's their failing that they weren't there for you, and that's no judgement on you or the validity of your pain whatsoever.
Thankfully at least you do have your brother and your daughter who do seem understanding and supportive. If your parents aren't able to give emotional support, I'd say to try not to let them add to your pain. Keep your focus instead with your brother and daughter (allow them to be/remain the important people in your life) and with yourself in gradually working through what happened to you with support.

Alison

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

Hola, Divine!

I'm sorry that you are going through this bad economical situation.

I was going to ask you if your parents were always like this but I read it at the end of your post.


Why you don't daré to visit your parents and talk with them in person?

Don't you feel welcome to your parents' house?

My parents are very bad acknowledging mine and my brothers needs and feelings. They either laugh make jokes or say mean things. Or do whatever the heck they want.

For example my dad didn't attend my daughter's wedding because he doesn't like my daughters dad (good man and excellent father that I always got along with) and because I am divorced (my parents are together but have a bad marriage how is that better than divorcing?) and my daughter was very hurt and he never apologized.

My dad is very verbally abuisive and toxic and even my T advised to keep interactions to a basic minimum. He caused me lots of damage. My mom is not abusive but all she cares is to please dad

I told them because they are still my parents and they would notice I am off at upcoming family functions

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[divine1966]

Thank you all. I am primarily in therapy because I was very damaged by my parents and constantly seek unhealthy relationships due to that. My t is great but I started late in life.

I am very grateful for my brother and my daughter, she lives too far to rush over but my brother literally rushed to get here to support. I keep telling my brother how much I appreciate him. We both suffered great lot from our parents and although we both damaged we do have each other.

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[AzulOscuro]

Sorry, Divine, that you have to pass through all this.
It seems that your father is very controlling and he only sees things in his way.
It's very hard to deal with this kind of people.

[CosmicRose]

Is it possible they don't check their email very regularly? A lot of people past a certain age really aren't very good with computers, my dad is 68 and barely knows how to turn on a laptop. So do you think its possible they simply haven't read the email? Can you perhaps give them a call about what happened instead?

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by CosmicRose

Is it possible they don't check their email very regularly? A lot of people past a certain age really aren't very good with computers, my dad is 68 and barely knows how to turn on a laptop. So do you think its possible they simply haven't read the email? Can you perhaps give them a call about what happened instead?

They both are still professionally employed full time. Computer is their everyday thing at work and at home and they both have smart phones and check emails on them as well. I did talk to mom on the phone after I sent email asking her to read email as I'd rather not say it verbatim, she said ok

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[divine1966]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

Sorry, Divine, that you have to pass through all this.

It seems that your father is very controlling and he only sees things in his way.

It's very hard to deal with this kind of people.

Yes very toxic and thank you for your support

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