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#1
Feb 01, 2015, 06:11 PM
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Wth is wrong with me? I've been sorta with this guy for about a year and a half and everything's been ok but now he's hanging around with this new woman and doing things with her that he's never asked me to go to. I feel stupid bc we were supposed to be more than just friends with benefits but now I see that's all I was. How can I be so stupid? On top of that I've been having trouble dealing with some changes in my life like new coworkers and changing my therapist (not my choice). I don't really know what to do I've given up
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Feb 01, 2015, 06:21 PM
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You are not stupid. You were just trusting and evidently the person you trusted did not honor that trust. Be gentle with yourself.
I'm sorry you are having to change therapist. That is never easy if it is someone that you liked and felt a connection with. Again, be gentle with yourself. You are going to come out the other side and will be okay.
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Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin "Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." -Buddha  |
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#3
Feb 02, 2015, 01:06 AM
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We all make the mistake of trusting the wrong person even when our senses tell us not to. It does not mean you are stupid.
I am starting a new therapy exercise today. For each of the next 30 days you will write down three things that you liked about yourself or your behavior before bedtime. Example: I like that I smiled today. I liked that I took out the trash instead of letting it pile up. I like that I was kind to myself. Each morning, read those three items before starting your day. Want to try it? |
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#4
Feb 02, 2015, 01:12 AM
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I'm sorry u hurt Dusty. Don't give up yet and don't try to read his mind, communicate to find out where u stand in the relationship.
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#5
Feb 02, 2015, 10:52 AM
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Yeah I'll try that Striking, maybe it'll do me some good. Thanks :-)
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Feb 02, 2015, 01:28 PM
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Cool.
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#7
Feb 02, 2015, 04:45 PM
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I know it's very difficult for you to see this now, but there are people who interact with us that have different insterests in a relation with us. Perhaps, we expect something from this relation but they have others. It doesn't mean they don't valué the relation or us, simply they live it from a different perspective. Ex; I had a coworker who was attracted to me psysically. I missunderstood his attention with romantic love. Can I blame him? No, I can't. My natural instinct to read people and me being a naive failed. Can I blame him for feeling sexual attraction towards me and try it? No, I can't. Can i blame myself for being a naive? Neither, I can. Have I got less valué as a person bc I missunderstood and I saw the same intentions towards me as I had towards him? No, I haven't. He has his interests and i had mine. Hugs! |
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Feb 02, 2015, 09:47 PM
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This sounds like a wonderful idea. I am going to try it too. Life is hard, but we all have to find some positives among all the negatives.
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Feb 04, 2015, 09:00 AM
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I am on day three and I smiled this morning thinking about how I liked my new job. I don't recall ever smiling about a job.
Hope you are feeling a bit better D. |
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Feb 04, 2015, 09:17 AM
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I'm a teacher. What's your job? If you don't mind I ask you. To the O.P. I hope you are feeling better. Keep talking with us. A hug! |
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