[Shybeautysimslover]

I'm a INTJ kind of gal, and I am so hesitate around people. I feel like it's eating me up. I'm never open about my feelings, and I would like to change that. When I do be honest, I get embarrassed. I'm socially awkward. I never know what to say. I'm not really open with my family, nor much people at school. There was my best friend, who I can be honest and tell everything to, but she moved away and we lost touch. I have experience social rejection before around middle school, and I want to change how I talk to people in high school cause I only have a couple years left so why not make the best of it.

How can I change this?

[CANDC]

Welcome to Psych Central (PC). Sorry to hear you are feeling awkward and having trouble being around people. It can be a matter of how we were treated as children that builds or tears down our self esteem.

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[striking]

I think its great that you are ready and willing to expand your boundaries.

First ya have to say hi and make eye contact, a smile helps too.

Try to put a focus on asking and listening. When you hear something you feel or have experienced say something like " right? I feel/think/noticed it too"!.

It will get easier as you gain confidence in yourself. Choose your friends wisely though.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[Steiner of Thule]

I've also gotten INTJ and have the problem of pushing others away. People tend to say I have walls up. Though I am not really sure how to answer your question. I tend to be the type to disappear on others. I've pushed most people away.

You're on the right track by wanting to improve, that's awesome. Its 50% body language and 20% listening the rest talking (I forget the percentage an article I read used). Anyways, with the right people, your walls are transparent. Hope this helps and that you find a lot of support on PC c: