[dolphinlover8]

My mom's boyfriend(really her husband but I don't like saying that) lives with me. We get into these big arguments every now and then. He is an alcoholic and smokes constantly. Neither one of them I can stand and they both make me extremely mad. I think part of the reason why he yells at me and gets so mad is from the drinking. My mom is like blind. She doesn't see a problem with any of this. I feel like she doesn't put me first and she doesn't care about my feelings as much as she should. I want her boyfriend out! I have thought about moving out but thats the only house I have ever lived in and I feel too attached to the house. I shouldn't have to leave because I have been there my whole life and he just moved in a couple years ago. I don't trust him because I don't know what he is capable of. I have been very close to hitting him before but I have never touched him. I try to do everything I can before I get to that point where I get so mad that I want to hit someone. I just really don't know what to do. I feel trapped because I know he isn't going anywhere even though I want him out of my house but at the same time if I moved out then it will be so hard for me because I get attached to people/things very easily and I don't take things well at all when I'm attached to them and I lose them. I feel like since he came into my life a couple of years ago is when my anger got worse. I'm not sure if that's just from him or a mixture of everything because a lot was happening in my life around the time he moved in

[kaliope]

have you said all this to your mom? does she know how unhappy you are? perhaps talking to her using i statements and not placing blame or attacking her boyfriend may help her to see how troublesome this is for you.

[dolphinlover8]

Thanks and yeah she know now but she doesn't really care. She just says he isn't going anywhere and if I think my life will be better somewhere else then to go live with my dad.

[Thunder Bow]

Why are you afraid to live in your own place??

[dolphinlover8]

I'm still to young to live alone but if I was to live with someone else I would have a really hard time adjusting because I am so attached to the house I live in now and I feel like my room is the only place where I feel completely comfortable and safe. Even if I moved and I got my own bedroom I still wouldn't feel the same. It's the only house I have ever lived in.