[Deershire]

I feel like I am suffocating. I am in talks to move out of my group home next month. This process alone is frustrating because nobody supports me leaving. Not staff, not my therapist, not even my case worker. My other worry is my boyfriend my case worker won't even help me if he moves in with me. Can she do that? My boyfriend's protective of me, gentle towards me and loves me very much. He's also homeless, lies, fights,smokes weed, can be violent and steals food and alcohol. He influences me to do things I never thought I would ever do. (Like public sex)
He constantly pushes me to have sex and I'm not going to lie it is flattering, I can't do it where I live.
He even had me hide him overnight twice. I didn't like it. I have been with him for four days straight and while I love him, I have never been more happy to get a break from him. I can't tell him that though. He's very sensitive and highly emotional. He wants me to help him and I want to but I struggle with schizoaffective disorder depressive type,personality disorder NOS,OCD,EDNOS and hallucinations. So I have my own problems and all this just overwhelms me and makes want to cry, only I can't. Not physically. Not even a tear. So instead I think of violent thoughts about people. To help clear my head, violent music. On the outside I'm as polite and sweet as usual. On the inside I'm a time bomb. Ticking away.

[CANDC]

You said:

He's also homeless, lies, fights,smokes weed, can be violent and steals food and alcohol. He influences me to do things I never thought I would ever do. (Like public sex)

I replied to one of your earlier posts. I understand why everyone is raising the red flag. This person will get you into trouble, maybe even into jail. He may act gentle sometimes but all the things you lists are red flags.

You even express reluctance yourself:

I have been with him for four days straight and while I love him, I have never been more happy to get a break from him.

I sense from the way you describe his behaviors he could be manipulating you to do things that you don't want to do.

My opinion is based on what you yourself say. Part of you knows this is wrong for you. I agree with this view.

Please listen to all the people that love you before it is too late and he gets you in trouble or hurts you.

[Deershire]

Originally Posted by CANDC

You said:

I replied to one of your earlier posts. I understand why everyone is raising the red flag. This person will get you into trouble, maybe even into jail. He may act gentle sometimes but all the things you lists are red flags.

You even express reluctance yourself:

I sense from the way you describe his behaviors he could be manipulating you to do things that you don't want to do.

My opinion is based on what you yourself say. Part of you knows this is wrong for you. I agree with this view.

Please listen to all the people that love you before it is too late and he gets you in trouble or hurts you.

Dear Candy,
Thank you for taking the time to talk to me. I hope you don't give up on me. My b.f has been at it again and I don't know how to react. I heard him on my phone yesterday and he was ordering his cousin to get him something and I think it was a gun. He's told me he's had 2 before but he had to get rid of them. I'm scared to to know what happened. He's tried to get help but the hospitals keep letting him go. Idk what to do for him anymore. I love him so much. I don't want to give up on him.

[CANDC]

Deershire, I feel bad you are having to deal with a bf that is not acting like a best friend, but a person that is always in trouble.

Are you still living in the group home? What does your counselor suggest you do?

Those people that are helping you are one of your best resources. Let them help you get through this difficult situation.

It is so difficult to be in love with a person that is homeless and unsupportive of you and perhaps even abusive at times. It is nice to have the affection and attention, but the other baggage is so much that it could be overwhelming.

[KristenRenee]

Hi there. I just wanted to reply to your post. I truly understand how you feel. I am in a relationship with by boyfriend who is Bipolar and Schitzophrenic. It is very difficult for me to deal with as I myself am Bipolar. I am trying to be understanding and show empanthy because I know what it's like to live with a mental illness, but enough is enough.. I am giving him one more chance and that's it. I am too old and sensitive to play head games and deal with drama. We used to live under the same roof as we were roommates in a house together. Somehow we got together and it went good for 2 months. Then I had to leave because of problems with the manager and we haven't been intimate since 2 month ago and he acts like he doesn't even want it. It makes me feel worthless and unwanted and unneeded. I know the right thing to do is to end it with him for good. It would be sure one less problem in my problambic life. But when he calls I jump and run to him like an idiot. I feel so disgusted with myself and want to make a clean brake.