[The Grey Wolf]

I just stay lonely and depressed all the time I talk to people sometimes and it helps a bit but then friends leave for various reasons I have some pretty strong abandonment issues I don't think there is any friend who has stayed in my life I know friends come and go throughout a persons life but I would like to have one I could count on I try to take my mind off of the loneliness but nothing seems to work and its like I fall deeper and deeper

[lizzyjb]

Sorry to hear that. I understand what you mean. I know people that have friends since childhood. I wish I have one but friends leave sometimes and we can't do anything.
You have to be sure that you are your best friend in life so you have to love yourself first of all to be able to love another people.
When I feel alone, I use to go for a city walk. See another persons around me make me feel that I am not alone I the world and there is a chance of introduce new friends.
Hope you find all what you need. You are not alone in all of this.
Lot of hugs

[AzulOscuro]

Wolf, I also know what you are talking.
What Lizzy says it's true. Fight for loving yourself and enjoy yourself is the first step to have healthy relations with people.
We are all more or less alone. But, do you think we all feel alone. No, we aren't. Bc many people have themselves and feel that they have themselves so they are strong to face to whatever.

People, friends, can't fill this emptiness. You can't trust them in that bc they have their own things to solve and bc they aren't you.

I know what a marvellous person is you but you have to keep some of this kindness for you. You won't be selfish for worrying more about you and less for others. It's something you have to do. Don't you see it? The stronger and the better you feel with yourself, the better you will be able to relate to others.
You won't feel this insecurity towards others and you even are going to be able to give them the best of you.

Sorry, I sometimes behave like a mother. You can do it, Wolf! You are not alone. You have many people here who care for you.

I know you are feeling depressive and can't see what I'm saying.
What about trying to write down some possitive things about you. Do you like writing on a journal? Forget the negative points. Only the possitive ones. And talk to me.

Hugs!

[gayleggg]

I know you struggle with loneliness and depression. I'm glad that you come here and join us. Many others here have the same problem. Making friends and keeping them in these days and times is tough, but don't give up.

I only have one friend but even I feel lonely at times because she has other things that occupy her time. Sometimes I even feel some jealousy toward her grandkids because they get so much of her attention. And sometimes she's just not there for me when I need her to be. I met her through work.

Getting out and meeting more people raises your chances of finding a friend. I know that this is hard to do when you are feeling depressed. But keep trying. I just know that you would make an awesome friend. I hope you find someone soon, but meanwhile keep in touch here.

[avlady]

i also suffer from loneliness. i don't get out of the house much, i don't have my own transportation, my husband does drive and we have a car, but he is at work all day long. i also have a son who is going through some mental issues and am scared for him like he may end up like me, with several mental problems. he is trying to drink his problems away. he is going to see a psychiatrist next week thank God.Otherwise about being lonely it is the worst thing that anyone can experience i think. sometimes we have to realize others do have their own plates full and may not be able to be there for us when we need it, even though they wish they could.

[Lostdeepinspace]

Originally Posted by The Grey Wolf

I just stay lonely and depressed all the time I talk to people sometimes and it helps a bit but then friends leave for various reasons I have some pretty strong abandonment issues I don't think there is any friend who has stayed in my life I know friends come and go throughout a persons life but I would like to have one I could count on I try to take my mind off of the loneliness but nothing seems to work and its like I fall deeper and deeper

I am sorry you feel this way! I feel that way too. I am around if you want to chat. Sorry been away for a bit.... hope this message wasnt aimed at me ..

[jaofao]

I'd recommend developing some interests, especially interests similar to that of your friend, that way it's easier to stay connected. Also realize that people have expectations on those who they would call friends, too. If you understand people more, you will find more ways to satisfy their needs and be a good friend.