[trashking]

i never really feel "attractive" but i usually can live coping with that pretty well,but yesterday i felt so so ugly and i have no idea why...like, i only really get caught up in it if i'm looking at myself in the mirror, but i took a picture of me and my friends who i was hanging with at the time and i just...crushed myself really..sometimes i forget how i look and that's when things are okay. i don't know..thisis just a vent post

[arundelle]

me too

I think anyone who would ever be attracted to me must have something seriously wrong with them. The idea of it is incompatible with life.

And yet - swear to god this is the truth - doing self-esteem therapy, which is bs, btw, I fed my picture into a Golden Ratio calculator, and came up with a 90th percentile beauty rating! Whatever! lol

No one can see how they really look, and you are more self-critical of yourself than anyone else on earth would ever be. Your standards for yourself are so much higher than what you expect others to meet. So try to see yourself as others do - a little fuzzy, only focusing on the good parts.

[trashking]

thank you,i'm actually happy to hear i'm not alone-though i heard some people thought like me, i kept thinking 'what's it like to be "normal"/ (even though there is no real "normal..") does everyone worry about these things /what is it like to be comfortable with how you look? etc. i've tried the "self-esteem boosting tips" and none of them ever really changed what i felt, but your advice is helpful, i'll definitely try to focus on the good things i can find...thank you so much for all the help

[avlady]

imsorry you feel so bad about your looks, like i posted on another post, beauty is interior

[trashking]

I will keep that in mind when i start to feel bad about it, thank you very much for the wise words

[Dan208]

I know exactly how you feel. I've never seen myself as attractive, even though I've had numerous people tell me that I'm very handsome. I just don't see it. I truly am my own worst critic in all aspects of my life.

[jaofao]

I can feel you. I feel ok with my looks sometimes but when I look at myself in a picture with someone I'm like "who the hell is this?"

People still love you like they always have, though, that's the bright side. We're just beating ourselves up.

[stayingafloat]

I get how u feel, its horrible esp when i look at my group photos taken with others, how i wish i wont stick out in an ugly way so much ha ha..