[Nike007]

Whenever I am really stressed or find I am dealing a lot with something in my life (like right now), I tend to have problems managing my anger. Usually I am a calm person, even though I am anxious 24/7, but if I talk to the few friends I have, then I tend to find something negative about what they said and act angry towards them (sorry, run on sentence). I don't know why I do this. But now I know what is the cause I have decided to not text my friend like I would normally do unless she texts me. Of course she won't do that, so I am not talking to anyone about the stresses in my life. If I talked to her about it, I know I would find something bad or negative and be frustrated with her even though I would never normally do that. Does anyone else experience the same thing? I didn't know which category this would fit under so I put it here. Thanks.

[superfly47]

Originally Posted by Nike007

Whenever I am really stressed or find I am dealing a lot with something in my life (like right now), I tend to have problems managing my anger. Usually I am a calm person, even though I am anxious 24/7, but if I talk to the few friends I have, then I tend to find something negative about what they said and act angry towards them (sorry, run on sentence). I don't know why I do this. But now I know what is the cause I have decided to not text my friend like I would normally do unless she texts me. Of course she won't do that, so I am not talking to anyone about the stresses in my life. If I talked to her about it, I know I would find something bad or negative and be frustrated with her even though I would never normally do that. Does anyone else experience the same thing? I didn't know which category this would fit under so I put it here. Thanks.

You have repressed anger about whatever is causing you lots of stress that you aren't addressing. You try to put it off but your body needs a way to let it out so that is why you're snapping at your friends.

The solution of how to deal with your stress better is really hard. Maybe look into stress management techniques or relaxation ones.

When people get stressed they often turn to short-term solutions that have long-term consequences. Eating a lot of junk food may make you feel better in the short-term, but after your blood sugar levels crash you feel even more stressed out.

Trying to avoid turning to conterproductive habits is good, but if you do some, don't rip into yourself too much. Someone who is trying a diet and eats one donut may get angry at himself, feel defeated and eat many more. It's impossible to avoid all bad habits during times of stress, just try to limit them.

Not saying you do these, just see if you're making other changes that make you feel worse. Look into stress management and relaxation techniques, odds are you should find at least one that appeals to you.

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by superfly47

You have repressed anger about whatever is causing you lots of stress that you aren't addressing. You try to put it off but your body needs a way to let it out so that is why you're snapping at your friends.

The solution of how to deal with your stress better is really hard. Maybe look into stress management techniques or relaxation ones.

When people get stressed they often turn to short-term solutions that have long-term consequences. Eating a lot of junk food may make you feel better in the short-term, but after your blood sugar levels crash you feel even more stressed out.

Trying to avoid turning to counterproductive habits is good, but if you do some, don't rip into yourself too much. Someone who is trying a diet and eats one donut may get angry at himself, feel defeated and eat many more. It's impossible to avoid all bad habits during times of stress, just try to limit them.

Not saying you do these, just see if you're making other changes that make you feel worse. Look into stress management and relaxation techniques, odds are you should find at least one that appeals to you.

I have never heard of repressed anger before, but it makes sense now. Thanks.

I don't know about the relaxation techniques. I don't know how it makes someone feel better being calmer with the techniques they suggest. I don't know.

I can look into stress management stuff I guess.

Thanks again

[TheSentinel]

Yes, I know that. When I'm in a situation where my stress level strikes the sky I burst into anger and aggressiveness. To prevent this I need to let out the pressure. There are some techniques that can help you to get back in touch with reality (resp. stress management).
Example: You get a text and it makes you "losing" your mind, then try something that gets you out of your emotionally loaded state. It's about putting down the stress and the tension you might feel. When it's gone you're once again the "lord of your mind" and you maybe can text back more rational.
You also should find out what happened right before you get into that mood. Like a certain text passage your friend wrote or some incident on that day time.

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by TheSentinel

Yes, I know that. When I'm in a situation where my stress level strikes the sky I burst into anger and aggressiveness. To prevent this I need to let out the pressure. There are some techniques that can help you to get back in touch with reality (resp. stress management).
Example: You get a text and it makes you "losing" your mind, then try something that gets you out of your emotionally loaded state. It's about putting down the stress and the tension you might feel. When it's gone you're once again the "lord of your mind" and you maybe can text back more rational.
You also should find out what happened right before you get into that mood. Like a certain text passage your friend wrote or some incident on that day time.

Thank you for your response. I know I should release my stress load out more often, but I don't.

Thanks. Sometimes it's face-to-face conversations that set me off more. I am basically always stressed and something so small to someone can set me off easily.