Just feel LEFT OUT

Has this thought ever come to anyone else? Where you just feel left out...from life...in general? Left out of happiness, family, friends, opportunities, etc. Not jealous... just feel like I don't "fit" anywhere. Is that odd?

Not odd at all for me. Not fitting in anywhere, no sense of belonging. It sucks!! Sorry you feel it too!

me too.
most of the time.
"left out" and "no sense of belonging" describe me so well.
and even worst, i fell so responsible for it.

Same for me. Alone in a crowded world.

I've felt like that for years. I feel like I don't fit in anywhere. I've tried. At school, at sportclubs, in group therapy. But somehow I'm always an outsider. I'm just not fit for this life as a human. I don't belong here. I always feel lonely.

me too. It's an awful feeling. Glad to know I'm not alone in feeling that way. Although I'm sorry for all of you who are.

Yeah. It's getting better as I learn to embrace who I am rather than what I think I should be, but yeah...

Story of my life. I used to think I need my own planet. I feel bad for others who feel like this. It is hard.

I think feeling left out is one of the most common and powerful feelings humans face. I think fear of being left out is pretty strong too. I think it comes from being, in essence, a pack animal. In our biological roots, isolation = death, so it's something we're very sensitive to, even hints of it can provoke a lot of anxiety.

I think if you surveyed the general population, most people would report feeling left out at times. It's probably more common in people who feel depressed and anxious too, though whether that's correlation or causation is hard to say.

During my depression... yes. During life in general... also yes. I'm a TCK and so I literally have spent my entire life not fitting in. :-/

It was really no wonder that I needed therapy. I loved my upbringing but throw in MDD/GAD in there and I was up a creek without a paddle.

yep, feel like that all the time.

I can't say I feel like this often but I am familiar with the feeling. I sometimes feel that life passes me by. I feel like this now because I work too much. I don't even notice season change. i hear about fun things people do but I am either tired or working

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Yep. Totally.

Isolated. Shunned. From family, from friends, from co-workers. Yeah, all the time. Although, I know, at least on some occasions, it is self imposed, I think.

Divine, that's what I mean...thanks for putting it to words. Life is just passing me by, and I'm standing here holding my hand up yelling "wait! Wait!"

And shunned is another good word. I felt crazy for thinking this way because I think of it like a little kid not being picked for a team. But this is different.....

Yep, I'm just there while everyone else seem to get it.

i finally feel like im not alone after reading this thread

I feel left out of life in general and I also have that feeling of life passing me by. Its a lonely feeling. I am sorry so many people feel it also.

Maybe it's the BPD, maybe it's from the agoraphobia, or maybe it's just me, but I definitely feel like life is passing me by. I feel like I missed a decade. Technically I did because I locked myself in my house. All my doctors are my age! What happened to the older doctors? And here are these people my age, working, being successful, having friends, having a family. And I have nothing to show for my years. I'm 10 years behind everyone. I keep thinking when does my life get to start? I know I'm going forward, at a snails pace though. I'm trying.

When I complain about such things I'm always told that people have different experiences and circumstances. I then ask why did this have to happen to me. Of course I'm told not to go down that spiral.

But I do feel lonely and lile I don't fit in. In my group therapy, the T divided the group by age. I was in the middle. I got put with the older people. They have lives! I do not. That jave family, friends, education, hobbies, etc. They actually live a good life (not saying they don't struggle with real issues). Before the group was split, I at least found commonality with the teens/20yr olds. I guess it makes sense because I feel behind. But they were starting their lives. And even they had good lives too! And here I am, stuck.

I'll stop. Just wanted to say I can relate.

I think it could be also age related. A bit of a middle life crisis. I am almost 50 but feel like there are so many things I'd like to experience and I don't feel my age. I'd like to make some changes in my life but don't know what or how. Generally speaking I have a pretty decent life yet I feel at times I'd like a big change.

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Oh, I feel that way to some degree or another just about every day. But jealousy comes with it for me. I look around every day at a thousand apparently happy, materially and spiritually fulfilled lives and it's as though a voice is saying "no, you jerk, these things aren't for YOU."

I live in a smallish, conservative city in which everyone all seems to be on the same page.... except for me. I'm isolated, alienated, discouraged. From a very young age something inside me told me I'd never have the things that mattered -- a family, a house, a place in the community, etc. And what do you know, I was right.

I try to blow it all off, tell myself that my life is my own to live as I see fit, and to hell with everyone else. But the feeling of being left out gnaws at me to the core.

I know exactly how you feel. There just hasn't been anyplace that's felt right, like I should be there, and feels like everything goes wrong somehow, even when there's no plausable reason for it. It's almost like I shouldn't exist so the universe just ignores me.

I have felt this way for most of my life. No matter who I'm with, where I am, or what I'm doing ~ I have felt very "removed". Very uncomfortable and lonely.

I have even been feeling that way about this site . . . I just don' fit in. But I am certainly finding commonality with most responses to this post. Feeling "shunned" and especially feeling "alone in a crowd" are ways I have described myself. I feel like I try so hard and nothing ever seems to work out. It all makes me feel worthless, unloved, and just a monumental failure at life. At this point after so many years feeling this way I have lost trust, so there is probably no hope of ever fitting in anywhere with anyone.

It's not odd at all (hug) I always feel left out and rejected and it stems directly from my parents and family and not fitting in there and being left out.
Have you explored these feelings with your therapist?
They are very strong and painful feelings for me anyway

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