Feeling inadequate

I feel no matter what i do, everyone just does it better than me. I feel so inadequate and a complete loser not knowing anything. Not being able to be good at something. I feel useless and a complete failure. I don't have any knowledge or talent or brain. I am so stupid

Stop comparing yourself to others. That is how you keep yourself feeling bad about yourself. Feeling bad about yourself is probably a comfortable place for you. Feeling better about yourself is a great risk for you at this time.

Exactly ThunderBow!

I'm going to focus on what you can change. You can increase your knowledge and stimulate your brain. Read, watch the news (real news not garbage news), find a subject you are interested in learning more about.

I feel medication has been detrimental to my intelligence and knowledge, so I do a lot of puzzles to try to stay sharp.

Talent. YOu may simply have not discovered it yet. Talent can be a lot of things - even dressing well with what we can manage. Have you thought of an introductary art class? It's a super way to meet people too :-)

I know what it's like to feel down on myself, but I fight it and do my best to make an effort. I do watch a lot of news. It's important to me to be knowledgable too.

I'm sure you're not as bad add all of that, but I hope you take comfort in knowing that you're not the only one who feels that way. If it weren't for PC, I wouldn't feel useful in any kind of way. You're a part of this community and you're being here helps us all! I hope that you will look deep within yourself and find your self worth rather than to measure yourself to the world. Even those who you perceive to "do things better" than you have someone better than them at those things. Please don't be so hard on yourself!

I agree that feeling bad about yourself has probably become your comfort zone. Getting yourself out of this can seem hard, but it can be done through very small steps in my experience. For me, it's helpful to try something new or put myself in a new location to do something I usually do. So since I love reading I may go to a new park or coffee shop to read. Or I may choose a new game on Luminosity or meditation app on my phone to try out. In order to connect this to self-esteem, I make a short list of things at the end of the day that I've done, and refer back to it in the morning (mornings are the hardest time for me). I put everything I can think of on that list with no judgement about whether it's a big enough accomplishment. So spending 15 minutes on PC counts, as does making some cheese and crackers for dinner. It's all about changing your perspective and giving yourself credit for what you've done. The more you practice this, the easier it will be to believe you are completely worthy of what you want and need.

Thank You all for all the great posts in this thread!

I work with someone who does the best job ever, better than anyone else at work yet she is convinced she is inadequate and is about to be fired . It's not my business and she isn't asking my opinion but I think therapy is helpful.

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I recently watched a Ted talk about self-compassion and how so many of us are constantly comparing ourselves to other people as a measure of our success and forget to show ourselves compassion. I am beginning to pull myself up whenever I am being too critical of myself or when those 'I'm stupid' thoughts enter my head. I feel so empowered every time I stop my thought process and instead think to myself, 'you are doing great. Keep up the good work, it's the little steps that count.' I truly believe that we will never find true happiness within ourselves until we start to love ourselves and be kinder to ourselves.

It's an extremely tough process to cut out the negative self talk but like anything, the only way to strengthen is to practise, practise and keep on practising. Eventually we will be positivity and happiness machines!

Take it easy on yourself and try to make small changes every day. Do something you've always wanted to but feel a bit scared to. For me it's as simple as looking up more in public instead of towards my feet or going into that store where I usually feel intimidated in. You will start to feel more confident as the days go by!