[starlight7797]

Hello all,
I have problems showing emotions. When i was a young child my father enjoyed making me cry. I dont fully understand why he enjoyed doing this , but it has caused me to not show any emotions around other people. Some days i feel like im made of ice, cold and heartless. I am able to show anger and happiness, but any other emotions are bottled up until i can be 100% alone to release them. This has made therapy difficult for me when going through past trauma. I know my t isnt twisted like my father was , but the unsettling memory of my father telling me he enjoyed watching me cry pops into my head when i feel like the tears are about to start. The moment the memory returns, my eyes dry and i instantly become angry. Im trying to find a way to over come this and be able to express myself when the emotions arise instead of holding them in. Any tips or suggestion on how to get past this barrier?

[Aina]

I am the same... or really similar at least. It makes therapy really difficult for me too. I am not sure how to deal with this, I just want you to know you're not alone.

[Thunder Bow]

Be determined and dedicated to your healing in therapy and you will overcome that barrier.

[Skewed1296]

I was the same kind of person a few years ago, and I think I never really wanted to show any emotion , but I started faking emotion to get by, fake smiles, fake affirmations, and then over time people slowly started trusting me...

But the most surprising thing was, as they let their guard down, I began to realize I could lower my own, If you want to show your emotions, I suggest experience other people's emotions first, that will make you comfortable.

And most of all trust your instinct and take it easy, if you dont feel like showing emotion ,dont force your constipated soul, everybody has a different level of emotions within them, and they must flow, just try having light discussions with people and slowly but surely you will trust them, and gain your emotions.

[avlady]

everyone has emotions, or i'd like to think, but i think its what and how and when to show them or use them that needs to be address when people have problems with them.good luck in finding the right combination in solving your problem, see a t and doc if you need to too.

[Teddy Bear]

The problem with us people who bottle our emotions up is that the people who we should share our emotions with cause the bottling problem. You need a friend who you can be completely honest with so you can start unbottling.