[Skewed1296]

I am a 17 year old guy, Due to amount of time I've to spend studying I don't get much time to talk to people, so i just chat with them.

But I have my **** together almost all of the time, and I do help people get out of their issues , but this has led everyone to think I'm very strong emotionally strong and don't need help. I get the respect for it and people praise me on it.

That is not what I want, I too need support sometimes and I feel afraid to ask for it, for the fear of being seen as unmanly ( Men are supposed to fend for themselves, right ? )

I feel quite ashamed asking for help, And I see other men getting it without them asking for it, so they are not judged.

I am deeply tired of this, I feel weak, neglected, I feel like going to sleep and getting up 4-5 years later.

My life has become a living hell. I am not strong

[kittyfaye]

You are strong. To help people with their problems is no easy feat, but you also need support. I totally understand that. I feel the same way myself except nobody wants to talk to me anymore. You can definitely find support on here, even though it might not be a physical person, and there are caring people here. Have you ever considered seeing the school counselor if you have one or a therapist? I've been seeing the counselor at my college for almost a year now. It's free but it helps.

[green0cake]

Good this time you asked for help. Like it's what always says, no man is an island. We need each other. You can feel free to vent here and seek some advice if you feel like people will judge you outside.

It's okay to pause for a while and just BREATHE. If you feel like you don't want to give them advice, it's okay to say some few words and let them decide all by themselves. You don't need to be there for them all the time.

Take time to know yourself. Don't mind what other people will say to you. You can't please everybody. Instead, each day, try to be you to become a better you. Don't ever compare yourself to others, too. You can't compare someone's chapter 14 to your chapter 3 in life.

With all that I said, I'm here to support you all the way!!!

[DechanDawa]

This can become a lifelong habit (that is, helping others when you yourself are not getting the help you need.) You need to take care of yourself, and maybe refrain a bit from helping others in order to figure out what you need and how to get it. With myself, sometimes it is easier to help someone else than to help myself. Also, if you aren't used to asking for help you could be in for a little surprise. The first or second, or even the third time you ask for help you might not get it! That's why you need to build the habit of seeking help. When I get in a tight corner where I have let myself get out of the habit of asking for help I feel like crap. Like now. Do you see what I am doing? I am trying to help you. That's actually okay because I asked for help on another thread. And because I keep a journal to try to keep track of when I need help and where I can get it. If you go to sleep and wake up in 4 or 5 years that just means you haven't practiced asking for help. As far as other guys, well, you aren't them. Maybe it somehow is easier for them to get help, but that's them. Not helpful to compare but I do it all the time, too.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by Skewed1296

I am a 17 year old guy, Due to amount of time I've to spend studying I don't get much time to talk to people, so i just chat with them.

But I have my **** together almost all of the time, and I do help people get out of their issues , but this has led everyone to think I'm very strong emotionally strong and don't need help. I get the respect for it and people praise me on it.

That is not what I want, I too need support sometimes and I feel afraid to ask for it, for the fear of being seen as unmanly ( Men are supposed to fend for themselves, right ? )

I feel quite ashamed asking for help, And I see other men getting it without them asking for it, so they are not judged.

I am deeply tired of this, I feel weak, neglected, I feel like going to sleep and getting up 4-5 years later.

My life has become a living hell. I am not strong

We all need help sometimes, old or young, male or female. It is completely appropriate to ask for what you need from other people. We assume people know that we are hurting or need support sometimes too but sometimes they're just not aware. There's nothing wrong with asking for help. At 17, not one has all the answers (they don't at 77 either!) and I doubt anyone expects you to be strong for everyone else and not have any needs of your own.