[derangedcandy]

I equate love and being wanted with sex. If my boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex I get distraught. I will sometimes start crying about it. I’ve always had issues with sex this way. I was sexually abuse as a child, so that is where BPD has stemmed from for me, and maybe these issues. A stereotypical man loves sex, so it just boggles my mind that my boyfriend doesn’t always want it. I wish it didn’t make me feel inadequate. I am not sure how to cope with this.

[Pepi]

Desiring to have sex by both genders is a natural thing. But showing/needing affection is as equally important. Some men, including myself, really crave kissing, hugging, cuddling, saying nice things to one another just as much as sex itself. Sex is a good thing but it's not on the top of the list of things showing if a man wants you or not. I would be much more worried if he avoided affection and any other kind of intimate interaction of the sort. How much sex do you have a week with him?

[jbuttz]

Hey there I'm a guy and I wanted to just let you know that im not always interested in having sex if that means anything to you we guys sometimes work harder than we should and sadly don't always have time or energy or when we do you females dont. You're far from inadequate and he knows that.

[Thunder Bow]

Feeling inadequate comes from you childhood sexual abuse, where you were being controlled. You were trying to apaese the controlling person when you were little, so he would stop hurting you.

Have you asked him why he doesn't want to have sex as frequent as you expect him to?