[ThingWithFeathers]

I guess I'm asking this because I don't really understand my own feelings and emotions. I block them because I see them as too overwhelming to handle

What do you do when you feel ...

Sad? Angry? Ashamed?

How do you recognise, sit with and process these emotions? How do you work through the emotion?

Any experiences, advice or answers would be really appreciated.

I journal

[TishaBuv]

When I'm sad, I get quiet, frown, cry
When I'm angry, I grimace, pout, might tell someone off
When I'm ashamed, I blush, might make fun of myself and laugh it off, or apologize
If I'm with people where I can't show these emotions, like in business, I try to have a poker face.

[avlady]

poker face for me too

Isolation for me.

[Perna]

The feeling is just a tool to help us understand a situation/relationship. I explore what I feel sad, angry, or ashamed about. I check to make sure the feeling is about something actually happening or just a thought I am having. Thoughts and feelings work together to help us respond in real time to real situations. Feeling ashamed about a thought -- it's just a thought and similar to any other fantasy/dream in that it just indicates something real going on with me that I might want to work with.

Too, getting as wide a variety of feelings identified as possible is very helpful as it makes it easier to identify what is bothering me. Our thoughts and feeling are all about us, not anything or anyone else so when I feel humiliated (can you tell when you feel humiliated versus when you feel ashamed?) I look at where I don't like myself, my "flaws" and review how I am working on that or not and take pride in myself if I am working on those issues or get to work on them if I am avoiding doing so (someone calling me "ugly" for example, I have to know, in myself, I am not ugly) and if I realize I'm doing as well as I can working on them, I get angry at the person for humiliating me (in public usually is the problem) and make a plan what to say/do to avoid that person and what to say if they do it again, etc.

Feelings are good things! I find one at a time I want to explore: List of Feeling Words and work on it for a day or week, seeing when I can identify it for myself and how it feels and when it happens, etc. The "more" distinct ones one can identify, the fuller and more interesting life is and easier to understand one's self and others.

[ThingWithFeathers]

Originally Posted by Perna

The feeling is just a tool to help us understand a situation/relationship. I explore what I feel sad, angry, or ashamed about. I check to make sure the feeling is about something actually happening or just a thought I am having. Thoughts and feelings work together to help us respond in real time to real situations. Feeling ashamed about a thought -- it's just a thought and similar to any other fantasy/dream in that it just indicates something real going on with me that I might want to work with.

Too, getting as wide a variety of feelings identified as possible is very helpful as it makes it easier to identify what is bothering me. Our thoughts and feeling are all about us, not anything or anyone else so when I feel humiliated (can you tell when you feel humiliated versus when you feel ashamed?) I look at where I don't like myself, my "flaws" and review how I am working on that or not and take pride in myself if I am working on those issues or get to work on them if I am avoiding doing so (someone calling me "ugly" for example, I have to know, in myself, I am not ugly) and if I realize I'm doing as well as I can working on them, I get angry at the person for humiliating me (in public usually is the problem) and make a plan what to say/do to avoid that person and what to say if they do it again, etc.

Feelings are good things! I find one at a time I want to explore: List of Feeling Words and work on it for a day or week, seeing when I can identify it for myself and how it feels and when it happens, etc. The "more" distinct ones one can identify, the fuller and more interesting life is and easier to understand one's self and others.

Thank you for this. No, I can't tell the difference between feeling ashamed or humiliated. I'm just beginning to explore the basic emotions within myself. I have trouble identifying my feelings and I am just learning that emotions mean something, a call for action. I don't know how to accept my feelings and work through them.

Your post is very helpful.

[Fightharder]

When I feel sad I don't put pressure on me
I try to meditate or go for run, talk with someone .. Do whatever you want to feel better
Some people like to cook or do garden
The more you can be out of your self doing something that you ejoy .. The better sometimes happens that when you finish what you have sonde for joy, you discover what is happen song with you or fix that is troubling you ..

[frankenhooker90]

good luck with everything

[PieceofMe]

eat, throw things and break them. scream and get into fights. I tend to withdraw and internalize things. if I don't then I usually just journal or write in a word document and not save it.

[DisorganisedMind]

Sad - depends on the level. Lie in bed with a quilt over my head, facing the wall and shaking at the worst. A lot of ruminating about stuff no-one cares about.
Angry - doesn't happen. Wish it did more. Might show some spirit.
Ashamed - isolate myself.

Other emotion I get is a need to do drastic things. A reckless, wild streak. Not sure what triggers that though - probably boredom.