[C2015]

My parents and my sisters don't have my picture out. They have other relatives pictures out but not mine. This really hurts my feelings. My Dad, my mom and my two sisters has a picture of each other out but none of me. It's been like this for years. I feel like my family is ashamed of me.

[Thunder Bow]

I think you are better off, when your pictures are not out. This means you are isolated and protected from any family issues that may come up in the future. The odds of them calling on you will be small. These will be the kind of issues you do not need to be contending with in the first place.

I think my dad doesn't have a photo of me on account I haven't given him a decent one in a frame

[Marylin]

My mum refused to be photographed with me because of my large size.
I am not hurt I think she is pathetic.

[Frankbtl]

Hi C2015

I can understand that it might seem like a huge rejection for you, and I'm sorry this is causing you so much hurt

But I'd really recommend you talking to your family about this, and in the least maybe it will help venting some of those feelings to them. It's got to be hard feeling the way you do and keeping it in, when you're seeing everyone but your photos up..........??

And it is possible that you'll get some of the answers you need to be able to move on (however that is).............on one hand it might be that they feel you closest to them in some ways...........you're more "burnt into their hearts" so they don't need pictures to hold onto........to evidence your place/presence so to speak..........that may sound strange but some people honestly do "work that way".
It may be that they feel that other people may need more validation...........may need to see how much they matter by having their photos on display.........it may be that other people can be kind of summed up in a photo, but you're one of those who can't be...........more dimensions to you........it may be no photo has "done you justice",,,,,....you may have made a comment at one time about having your photo taken and they're under the belief that that's not your "thing", being on display.............
It doesn't have to be personal

But worth talking to them about it..........and worse case scenario, they do see you as more distant in the family..........maybe you both/all could work on "building some bridges"..........sometimes, with committment on both/all sides that can be easier to do and much more rewarding than it may first seem............
But either way..........maybe you'll get some of the answers you need............



Alison

[Koko2]

Buy some picture frames, but leave the generic family photos, not your family, in them for display at your place. Watch your family's reaction when they visit you.

[Marylin]

If they have deliberately left out your photo none of the excuses the other posters are making are valid in my opinion,no photos of you but photos of everyone else speaks loud and clear to me,they don't value you like they do them.Just face it no use going into denial or buying into possible excuses.Why waste your time.i wasted 35 years giving my abusive family the benefit of the doubt,no more thanks I started to see what was staring me in the face,they didn't/don't care about me and even caused me harm without batting an eyelid!

[C2015]

My family has my pictures in frames. For some reason they took the pictures down. At my mom's request I had a recent picture made she had it out for a while. I wondered what happened to it. I found it in the bottom of the living room closet. It was in a beautiful frame to. I had asked my step dad about my picture why didn't they have it out. He went on a rampage. He told me off and accused me of upsetting him on purpose.

[C2015]

Originally Posted by Marylin

If they have deliberately left out your photo none of the excuses the other posters are making are valid in my opinion,no photos of you but photos of everyone else speaks loud and clear to me,they don't value you like they do them.Just face it no use going into denial or buying into possible excuses.Why waste your time.i wasted 35 years giving my abusive family the benefit of the doubt,no more thanks I started to see what was staring me in the face,they didn't/don't care about me and even caused me harm without batting an eyelid!

Your family sounds like mine. For some reason they just don't want my picture out. The only family member that asks me to do anything with them is my Dad.

[C2015]

The only pictures of my relatives I have out are of my deceased grandparents that I was close to. I also have out pictures of my deceased cats. I have one wall I have their pictures on. I also have out my niece's pictures. I have all over my apartment pictures of Michael Jackson.

[Hairball]

Don't feel bad my family is fairly extensive and none of them have my picture out either.
I have known for years that I am the blacksheep. It used to hurt, but I had to let it go and not dwell on it for my own health.
I don't have pictures of my family displayed anywhere in my apt either so.
I just wish I was able to let it go way sooner than what I did because it soooo wasn't worth it.

Originally Posted by Koko2

Buy some picture frames, but leave the generic family photos, not your family, in them for display at your place. Watch your family's reaction when they visit you.

Absolutely bang on!