[MickeyCheeky]

I always feel bored all day and don't know what to do... I have no hobbies or friends, so I just stay home and do nothing all day, staying at the computer or laying in bed. But I don't want to live like this..

What should I do? I just feel lazy all day, and I have no idea how to get out of it

[divine1966]

Get a job? How old are you? Unless you are a child you could work even if part time etc



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[MickeyCheeky]

I'm 18 years old, so I can only do small jobs.. but which one? I'm not really capable of doing one in particular

[divine1966]

At 18 it might be tough to have a good job. Where do you live? I know plenty of 18 years olds work part time in retail or fast food or restaurants etc . Many of my students work part time and they are still in high school and not even 18. Do you live with your family? What do they say about it? Are you in therapy?

Edit: I see you are in Italy and I heard unemployment is high right now. Are there any agencies that help youngsters finding jobs?

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[MickeyCheeky]

Not that I know of... Anyway yes, I still live with my family. And yes, I'm seeing a T, even though I don't like him very much, I was thinking of hiring a new one...

[gina_re]

Can you volunteer anywhere?

18 is an adult in my books. Volunteer. It will give you something to do, people to meet, a sense of responsibility, and experience for your resume. With any luck, a position may turn into a paid one.

In the meantime, find ways to take responsibility and contribute in your home. 18 is old enough to pay rent, HOWEVER I understand how mental health can affect the ability to do so. There are other ways to contribute though and this too will eat away at the boredom.

If you can find a group to attend or even sign up for a class - pottery was my favourite.

You can do this.

[MickeyCheeky]

Volunteer for what, exactly? Thank you all btw.

[MickeyCheeky]

Oh, you meant volunteering abroad, maybe? I don't think I can do that, sorry besides, I hate traveling tbh..

[divine1966]

Not abroad per se but like in a hospital or homeless shelter

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[MickeyCheeky]

Oh, I get it now. I guess I could do it, even though I'm a bit germaphobe, I don't know how weel I could do in hospitals..

However, I think the problem is actually another one: it's not only that I don't know what to do (even though that plays a big part, too), it's that I don't find the MOTIVATION to do it. For example, I recently bought a guitar to learn how to play it, but I got discouraged pretty quickly (a couple of weeks) and I stopped playing it.

That's what I was referring to: I don't have any hobbies or interests, and I have trouble finding them because I get bored with them pretty fast; and this makes me sad and hopeless

[HalfBloodPrince]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I always feel bored all day and don't know what to do... I have no hobbies or friends, so I just stay home and do nothing all day, staying at the computer or laying in bed. But I don't want to live like this..

What should I do? I just feel lazy all day, and I have no idea how to get out of it

Hi,
I too feel the same way like you on some days. But I try to find something of interest and keep myself engaged. I too don't have many friends, that's the reason why I try to entertain myself when I feel lonely. But it's tough some days.
You have access to a computer with internet connection and that's the best companion you have there. There are so many things you could do with a PC. Read news, play games, watch movies, read e books, participate in forums, etc.
By the way, you can continue for your higher studies and you can keep yourself busy studying.

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you I already do those things you mentioned, but I was talking about something to do "in real life", if you know what I'm saying... becausre right now, using the PC is literally the only thing I do

[HalfBloodPrince]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Thank you I already do those things you mentioned, but I was talking about something to do "in real life", if you know what I'm saying... becausre right now, using the PC is literally the only thing I do

Can't say much about real world activities as I, myself spend lot of time at home rather than out.
There are two alternatives I guess, either studying or working. Either of it will consume most of your day and except on Sundays, you won't feel much* bored 😃.

[HalfBloodPrince]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Oh, I get it now. I guess I could do it, even though I'm a bit germaphobe, I don't know how weel I could do in hospitals..

However, I think the problem is actually another one: it's not only that I don't know what to do (even though that plays a big part, too), it's that I don't find the MOTIVATION to do it. For example, I recently bought a guitar to learn how to play it, but I got discouraged pretty quickly (a couple of weeks) and I stopped playing it.

That's what I was referring to: I don't have any hobbies or interests, and I have trouble finding them because I get bored with them pretty fast; and this makes me sad and hopeless

I think apperception is one of the factor for motivation. I mean, when you showcase your work/art, and when people appreciate it, you will get motivation for improving/continuing your work/hobby. For example, if you like photography, upload your images in photography websites like 500px. When your images get liked/upvoted by fellow photographers, it will boost your confidence in your hobby and you will get motivated to improve it further.

[MickeyCheeky]

I guess you're right about appreciation... but what should I do, then?

Also, about studying.. The thing is, I'm still in high school and I don't like at all the school I've chosen. And I have no idea of what should I study in college, since I have no interests. Also, keep in mind that I'm not really smart or bright, so I have some difficulties about studying..

And even besides all of this...I don't want to spend all of my time doing one single thing, I don't think it's really healthy..

[gina_re]

You can volunteer almost anywhere. A homeless shelter, a hospital, elementary school, museums....whatever interests you may have I'm sure an opportunity to volunteer exists.

I volunteer casually at a museum. I am busy during the summers as I volunteer at various festivals and special events. For example I will be ushering at a fringe theatre festival. They give me show passes for each shift volunteered. This weekend I will be volunteering at a Rib cook-off. I will earn meal vouchers for each shift worked. I volunteered at a big pancake festival earlier this summer and worked on food preparation for another event about the same time. I volunteer for a charity organization too doing various jobs as required.

There is a lot to do.

Most communities have a volunteer hotline where you can find out and be matched up with suitable positions. My mental health association has a vocational support worker who does that too.

None of the volunteering I do requires any specific skill. Mostly it's fun and usually pretty easy. The best part is that it gives you something REWARDING to do and looks great on a resume.

[MickeyCheeky]

I guess I could try, then... But I'm not really sure it will be that much helpful to me, I feel like my problem is more deep inside me... and I don't really know how to solve it

I disagree. I think it can solve your problem. You seem, pardon me, a tad bit aimless and reluctant. Yes, it's a very big plunge to take. But I am sure you will come across something rewarding. The added bonus is that you will meet people.

Make up a list of what DOES to you look like positive activities. Concentrate on that instead of what you don't like to do.

I think start with special events and one time only situations. Such volunteering doesn't bind you or commit you to something that turns out not to be what you imagined. I mean things like Festivals, races, fundraising events, etc. There are so many things to do. I've poured beer at food festivals, handed out water at a marathon, got to watch shows as an usher, checked in other volunteers for their own shifts, folded flyers and stuffed envelopes, flipped burgers, helped run a petting zoo, etc, etc. I've had fun at every one of these things.

[MickeyCheeky]

I wasn't questioning the usefulness of volunteering... I was only questioning if this will be enough..

[gina_re]

It doesn't hurt to try. What's the worst that can happen?

[gina_re]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I guess I could try, then... But I'm not really sure it will be that much helpful to me, I feel like my problem is more deep inside me... and I don't really know how to solve it

If you believe there is something wrong so deep within you, you have to put forth the effort to do something about it. Otherwise nothing will change. Therapy, I believe will help with that.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm already in therapy, but it's not going well

[gina_re]

Maybe a new therapist for a second opinion? It could be that you and your therapist aren't a good fit. Complaining gets you nowhere.