Dealing with sarcastic people

They often try to belittle people using caustic remarks or jokes, treating you like you were not worthy of their attention. It can happen even in real life, but mostly online. What's wrong with them? How do you deal when when try to put you down?
Is that the effect of some narcissistic injury or are they often like that?

I'm a very sarcastic person, though I'm not one to be malicious. It's usually reserved for people I'm close with. The kind of people where we take turns razzing each other.

I think in some it is as you say some sort of narcissistic injury.

I refuse to associate with sarcastic people.

For most of us, it's a type of humor. Others use it to hurt others. I'm sorry you were hurt. Learn to over look it, as it's more about them than you. It will take time, but you can do it.

Internet bullies are all about control. They are controlling the cyber space they are within. They are controlling people with their remarks. They are all seeking attention.

A lot of people get their self worth by cutting others down. Some might just use it as their coping skill (A negative one I think). It's about the acknowledgement, it's craved. The control and fulfillment from it is a false sense of rewarding yourself.

This also shows itself by arguing a point into the ground too.

It's easier to just go quiet. I'm guilty of doing these things myself, so I'll apologize. I'm learning how to just stay quiet when I feel the urge to argue/be rude.

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How sad that some people feel so badly about themselves that the only way they can even try to feel better is to act sarcastic or caustic to others ...

That's generally what I respond with before silently excusing myself from whatever chat or forum I'm in, including here at PsychCentral ...

If I want to be abused, I will move back home with my toxic family of origin ... In the meantime, I hope it helps those who use this kind of behavior to start examining and improving how they feel about themselves so they no longer feel the need to act in such an atrocious manner towards other human beings!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

Sarcasm is a learned way of (not) communicating. Personally, I try not to associate with sarcastic people.

In my experience, there are three reasons people will be sarcastic:

1. They really do intend to bully / belittle;
2. They are just venting about a situation that frustrates them in a way that could be seen as a more personal put-down;
3. They like to joke around with people they actually like, using "fake sarcasm".

I really wish I knew better ways to differentiate the three. Especially when I'm stressed out, it gets hard to figure out which is which. I don't play well with sarcasm or what might be interpreted as such, but that's just me. Sometimes I have to ask myself "wow, that felt like a sting ... which of the three is it most likely to be given the context?"

I find sarcasm confusing. Sometimes it's hard to understand the intention, particularly online in written word.

These posts have helped me think about and understand a little better.

As for dealing with sarcastic people, I try to limit my interactions with such people. I don't have anyone close to me who uses sarcasm often fortunately.

Please don't sarcastic switch lol....Whew that was close. I say keep away from toxic people that doesn't grow you not ur cup of tea. Remind them of ur age, show them a younger or sarcastic person. I knew a lady that checked me one time in my late teens, I rarely use mine until I got a bolus of sarcastic to see who got created, yea a multiple. Like a desensitized program, I still hate it since people don't laugh or say I'm just kidding...The emotions don't match the face. I hate Kevin Hart, Monique, Chris Tucker bullies to worst degree especially that Facebook for 13 year ago girls comment. They got poor boundaries all they know is funny and lack depth.....I agree with you this topic

I hate any use of sarcasm,it is not clever,the people that use it think they are clever and they think and feel superior too.I avoid anyone that uses sarcasm.I file them under abusers and toxic.I have just ended a so called friendship cause she used sarcasm on me when I was going through a traumatic experience with other abusers.I told her and she denied being sarcastic so I knew straight away I couldn't trust her to be honest and that she didn't care about me it was how she looked and how she wanted to define our interactions,I saw I would never get fair treatment from her, so it was off you go **** off.This woman used me for free cinema tickets anyway,she never contacted me first It was always me saying do you want to see a film,or else I'd never see her ,good riddance.I met her cos she used to work for the home help charity and used to get paid to do my housework.So she isn't worth knowing I found that out!

I have witnessed people trying to use sarcasm to cover up their social anxiety. They want to connect and want to appear friendly by making jokes, but they can't help it or they don't know that they are sarcastic. I think one thing you can do is overlook their behaviors and forgive them for being immature. Another thing you can do is reply with a loving response. Don't ask me why but kindness always prevail. Another thing you can do is help them differentiate, like rephrasing things for them so that they can hear the differences in expression, then they can be aware of how they sound and behave and learn that their sarcasm stings.

Some consider it to be a facet of anger.

How to deal with it? Compassion instead of judgment?

I am not a fan of being a victim and treating my abusers with compassion that just invites more abuse from them.The best thing is a no tolerance attitude, if they do that sarcasm act I confront them and tell them i won't have anymore to do with them,that is the best solution.I am not a ****ing punchbag.

If it is hurtful sarcasm (as opposed to silly sarcasm), it is about insecurity and anger.

This is interesting to me, I grew up with sarcasm, it's my families sense of humor, and where I grew up was kind of "coin of the realm." When I moved across country, I learned that sarcasm didn't translate well - it not only wasn't received as humorous, but was seen as cruel. I've titrated my sarcasm - I never use it against other people, just to illustrate irony in my own life.

When you grow up with it, it's kind of a sign of affection to banter and tease those you care about. But I can see that in those cases, the other person 1. understood sarcasm and 2. understood my intention was not to be brutal but playful and 3. the other person was prepared and eager to volley it right back.

It seems to be seen as a blood sport elsewhere - I do not engage if I sense it won't be received in a spirit of fun.

Just to clarify - mercilessly shredding someone is NOT what I consider sarcasm - that's just being a *&*^^^%.

I am extremely sarcastic and have been since childhood. I engage in this pattern of communication in order to joke about or more gently point out a flaw in someone's argument. I find people are much more receptive to counter-arguments that way and, even if they don't agree, we have a good laugh. Sarcasm can be used maliciously, but it is not always so. As I stated earlier, my main reason for using sarcasm is comedy. I love deadpan humor-I love the juxtaposition of bizarre speech and stone-faced visage. And I enjoy when this combination elicits laughter from others.
I will say, however, and I'm sure you will agree, that sarcasm is not necessary in every conversation. An answer to the question "Would you like some coffee" does not need sarcasm. That would just be aggravating.

It's all about time and place, as with anything.