Obsessing about my relationship!

I am trying really hard to make my relationship with my guy work. I should first say that I also have anxiety, ADD, possible OCD and obsessive disorders. Nothing has been diagnosed as extreme but I have been on meds for depression in the past. Anyhow, I met this amazing guy after dating for 2 years unsuccessfully. It hasn’t been that long, only 4 months and we have become so close in this time and have also been dealing with big situations in such a small amount of time. The first situation was his close friendship to a female who he has been friends with since they were 15. They never dated or even kissed and yet I am jealous and envious of his closeness to another female. I have set boundaries and he respects them. I have told him exactly what I want from him and he actually stopped talking to her all together but I also know what won't make him happy long term either. I still have anxiety and complete obsession over the situation. I broke down a few times but fixed my emotions. I trust him and know where they stand so what's my problem? We are both working on the situation but I completely obsess about any issue we have until it actually can turn into a panic attack. I have also been drinking a lot in the last few months and having a hard time stepping away. He recently told me he would like to see me party less. I have no problem with working on that but yet again, I am completely stressing to the max about feeling like maybe he will leave me or he will lose respect for me. Just complete anxiety over every problem. Then there has been some other smaller issues we have been dealing with such as me wanting more sexual attention and his smoking the odd cigarettes which I do not like. I find I am often completely obsessing over my relationship and I actually can’t tell if I am moving too fast in this relationship. I tend to feel somewhat fixated on him, what he is doing and us and preoccupied about our future and what I want. He’s a really good guy and I really want to make it work but I am struggling through this emotional rollercoaster. Am I too obsessed and fixated? Anyone have any ideas?

Hello Winsterchick: I'm sorry I don't have much of anything to offer with regard to this. Perhaps some counseling or mental health therapy services are what's needed here. However I see this was your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

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