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Mar 23, 2017, 02:02 AM
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I have been hiding a secret from my university friends. I was required to withdraw from university of last year. Right now I am attempting to get my gpa up from taking online classes. But I never told any of my friends that I was basically academically suspended. I know they get catty around each other and loves to gossip so I am extremely reluctant on telling anyone that I failed. But I don't know if I can keep this secret and keep lying to them that everything is okay. Because my gpa is so low that I still have to enter a non degree program in fall to boast my gpa even more.
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#2
Mar 23, 2017, 03:29 PM
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One of the problems with lies is that after a while it can become difficult to recall who you told what to.
 And that can be anxiety provoking. Plus in the end it can scuttle your ship. Actually if they were really friends, it seems as though they would support you in your efforts, not jibber-jabber about it.  Besides... it's really none of your friends' business anyway. But I know how it is. Best wishes with your efforts to get your GPA back up. It's been many decades since I was in school. But I recall being in a similar situation... more than once...   
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#3
Mar 24, 2017, 07:03 AM
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Look, if these people were friends they wouldn't judge you.
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#4
Mar 24, 2017, 08:20 AM
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Your gpa may have slipped, but your instincts are spot on. No need to tell your catty friends the truth. Just raise your grades and get back in the game.
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Mar 24, 2017, 08:29 AM
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If it was me I would tell my "friends" the truth and find out who my friends are. For myself I don't have space in my life for unsupportive friends. Too stressful.
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Mar 24, 2017, 09:05 AM
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If they are friends, and you ask them not to judge you or share this with anyone, they they'll probably respect that. If they don't.. well, they probably weren't true friends anyway.
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#7
Mar 24, 2017, 12:58 PM
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I'm sure there is relevance some where in someone knowing your business. In general, you don't have to share what you don't want to share. Coping with the shame is a good enough reason to not inform anyone of your business. I think if or when you have to share there is enough damage control for folks to understand. I always for those toxic retailiators they don't belong in your life anyway.
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#8
Mar 24, 2017, 03:31 PM
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If your friends get catty or gossip they probably aren't the type to share your troubles with.
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Mar 26, 2017, 06:28 PM
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You don't owe your university friends an explanation. Like someone mentioned above, just raise your gpa and you'll be good.
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