[sarahawake]

I got to a point where I am no longer dissociating in anxious situations; but this means everything I feel is so overwhelming I don't know how to deal with them.
Not just anxity... but sexual tension is unbearable as well.
I have been getting to know someone online and even though we have not met in real life it is hard for me to engage in any sort of sexual play. And it is pretty bad, because I do want to.
this thing is still it's in early state... trying to be honest and upfront, but I feel like it might have just too much for him. He is understanding and shows patience, but still. I feel like I went a bit overboard.... because this ambiguity of wanting and not wanting is too much for me.
And now I'm kind of in an anxious and obsessed state, not knowing how to ease this...

[Skeezyks]

Hello sarahawake: I'm sorry I cannot comment with regard to your concerns. But I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

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[sarahawake]

Alright, alright..

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello sarahawake: I'm sorry I cannot comment with regard to your concerns. But I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[reb569]

I don't handle anxiety or stress well when I'm in a situation where I don't dissociate. Try some grounding techniques. It may give you the same relief that dissociation used to.

When I'm anxious like that, like panicky anxious and worried, the thought behind my anxiety is "I'm flawed, something is wrong with me," when really, there's not. Can you relate? DBT techniques like distraction and self soothing tend to help me. I hope you feel better.

[sarahawake]

Yes, I can absolutely relate to that. I think this whole thing grown up from the actul thing - the shaming/bullying. I've just since opened my eyes. And thank you. Yes, realised I tend to do those when I am cought up in a wide storm of daydreams for example I have a set of songs I can sing along with and such distractions. But yes, I will try to be more aware of these - try new ones, using them conciously.

Originally Posted by starrysky

When I'm anxious like that, like panicky anxious and worried, the thought behind my anxiety is "I'm flawed, something is wrong with me," when really, there's not. Can you relate? DBT techniques like distraction and self soothing tend to help me. I hope you feel better.