[TishaBuv]

I've learned a lesson from getting hurt in dealing with people. I'm going to be much more careful now, if some interaction comes up where I can get hurt.

It's the personal, close relationships that really hurt me. When there's supposed to be love and trust, but they're just users and back stabbers.

My job deals with negotiating, and I'll be very cautious with taking that on, but that's when I expect an adversary.

I've torn myself up inside from stress, anger, grief, hysteria.

Gotta go easy now.

Good job.

I always keep my guard up when dealing with others because humans are all users and backstabbers to some extent; some more than others. Give somebody the power to hurt you and a good enough motive and they always will.

Survive at all costs.

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

Good job.

I always keep my guard up when dealing with others because humans are all users and backstabbers to some extent; some more than others. Give somebody the power to hurt you and a good enough motive and they always will.

Survive at all costs.

You take it much farther than I do.

I suppose we all do use each other for something, but that's not necessarilary bad. Usually our motives are friendship, to alleviate loneliness, to feel good, etc...

I'm scared of getting crushed and falling into depression.

You might be right, that anyone will hurt someone if the price is right. But, you'll miss out on a lot if you put your guard up too high. Right?

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

You take it much farther than I do.

I suppose we all do use each other for something, but that's not necessarilary bad. Usually our motives are friendship, to alleviate loneliness, to feel good, etc...

I'm scared of getting crushed and falling into depression.

You might be right, that anyone will hurt someone if the price is right. But, you'll miss out on a lot if you put your guard up too high. Right?

Let me rephrase: I keep my guard up when I'm around strangers or people that I don't particularly like; if I know somebody for awhile, depending on their personality and how well I mix with them, I might be inclined to lower my guard a bit but it's something that I will do gradually over a long period of time.

I was depressed and cranky from a restless sleep when I made that reply lol.

[avlady]

i have a happy face people think i'm happy all the time because i hide my emotions. they see me coming and there goes the smile on my face coming out because i am truely happy to see them although these people are the ones that stabbed me in the back. I am like Casper the friendly ghost, want and need people after a long time of loneliness i figure why not love them too as that is and was how bad it was to be alone.

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by avlady

i have a happy face people think i'm happy all the time because i hide my emotions. they see me coming and there goes the smile on my face coming out because i am truely happy to see them although these people are the ones that stabbed me in the back. I am like Casper the friendly ghost, want and need people after a long time of loneliness i figure why not love them too as that is and was how bad it was to be alone.

I put on a happy face to the public, too.

Why not find new people who haven't already stabbed you in the back?

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

Let me rephrase: I keep my guard up when I'm around strangers or people that I don't particularly like; if I know somebody for awhile, depending on their personality and how well I mix with them, I might be inclined to lower my guard a bit but it's something that I will do gradually over a long period of time.

I was depressed and cranky from a restless sleep when I made that reply lol.

I am always protecting what can be taken from me, while at the same time being friendly.

I have just learned that my own mother is such a lying manipulator. I knew she was to an extent, but never to this extent. It's crushing!

I expected it from strangers...but from my own mother???

Because these hurts take me so far down the well, I'm going to be very careful about getting myself into anything new that has potential to hurt me. I am weak and extremely obsessive.