[sinking]

I get hurt so easily... by people... I guess its my fault... How can i develop a stronger defense?
Isolating myself works only to a certain point...

[unsure35]

I don't know your circumstances but why would you say it's your fault? What do you do for a defense now?

[Sunflower123]

Would you consider yourself a highly sensitive person?

[sinking]

Highly sensitive person? yes, i'd say that...

my fault because i think its impossible that every single person who is/was part of my life has hurt me in one way or another.... it must be my fault.

for now my best defense is isolating myself. what else could i do?

[subtle lights]

I don't know the solution to this, but in my experience the more I isolate myself from people, the easier I get hurt when I'm actually with people. I think there should be some kind of healthy balance, which might be different for everyone. I mean balance between social exposure and aloneness. I'm not good at finding the balance, I always exaggerate one way and then the other...

I have the same issue

Wayyyy to sensitive and when I'm upset I can't cope and deal with my emotions in a non destructive or unhealthy way.

I hate it.

I'm sorry you deal with this as well.

[MickeyCheeky]

It's not your fault. You're likely just more sensitive than others.. nothing wrong with that, although I'm sorry it is painful for you. Also, I don't know who the people you met are, but it's not unlikely that some of them really DID hurt you..

[leejosepho]

Originally Posted by sinking

I get hurt so easily... by people... I guess its my fault...

It is our fault if we knowingly step in front of someone who hurts people, like stepping in front of a train or whatever, but it is not our fault when we are hurt because someone else has fallen short of offering whatever we need in order to feel needed, wanted and loved...and that is unless we already know that person is unwilling or unable to provide those things and and we keep expecting them from him or her anyway.

Originally Posted by sinking

How can i develop a stronger defense?

Other than learning how to not end up standing in front of them, there is no defense against people who hurt people any more than we might defend ourselves against a runaway truck. So again, we must simply learn to not vulnerably present ourselves in their paths.

Originally Posted by sinking

Isolating myself works only to a certain point...

Exactly, and that is part of the proof we all need other people in our lives...and therein lies the challenge of finding the comfort, satisfaction and protection of healthy (altruistic) interactions with other healthy-minded and right-acting people.