Angry big time

Right now I am so angry with my husband. I tell him the things that really get to me and then he does them anyway. Frustratingly and yet good it isn't he does not do this on purpose. He just doesn't get it and does the same thing over and over and I have gotten to the screaming stage. If he interferes with what I am doing with unwanted help or tries to control even simple decisions I go bonkers inside! I have told him he is hurting my sense of independence and even of worth and he agrees that he shouldn't and the next day he just does it again. I have gotten so I just can't stand it and I am angry with him most of the time. I have talked! I have told him! This anger is really bad for me and unfortunately doesn't stop with that. My health and well being is affected by being mad and I try to learn and study but I have some really bad feelings inside me and although I tried to get back to counseling one of these really bad sessions of anger got me lying in bed for a day. He is annoying to the nines and I spend a lot of energy trying to avoid the situations that will get to me. Unfortunately, this is a huge part of our personalities and I wish we had stayed in counseling. I have so much anger and self punishing ways in me and I am older and physically suffering . This feels impossible .

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling a lot with anger.

Could you elaborate on these things that your husband does to frustrate you? Also, would it be possible for you two to get into couples counselling?

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a tough time and so much anger. That's got to be uncomfortable. Will couples counseling help? Will he participate and listen? What about you getting individual therapy to process your anger? I hope you and your husband can smooth things out. Best wishes.

You mentioned that you have already tried counselling.. how did it go? Why did you stop?

Sounds very challenging!

you have mentioned both therapy and couples counseling.
Did you stop attending these? Why?

I strongly encourage you to get involved in both, if possible.
I really don't see another way to resolve your differences. Do you?


WC