[gonegirl99]

Mother accused me of having autism. I went in for an evaluation this Thursday. I was happy because I was thinking finally I can go get this depression/social anxiety thinking over with and helped in some way. Went in a different psychologist was there. Could tell right off the back she was not warm and friendly.

Long story short my covert narcissistic mother was there unfortunately too, saying I have asd when there are no signs of it. She's said that **** before knowing it made me upset. The therapist I had at 16 said I just was experiencing anxiety now my mother is turning it around and lying. I clearly said I would make friends if I just felt more comfortable around others. But as usual I've been ignored and not listened to.[/FONT][/LIST]

[gonegirl99]

I've always been able to read the emotions of others to the point where I fear getting negative looks because I don't want to be judged. My mother has judged me all of my life. I used to be a social butterfly then had it in my head by middle school that I wasn't good enough and I needed more people to like me/validate me so I stayed in the background. I know how to socialize and all that normal ****. I just fear people backstabbing me if I become to close. Now she wants me to get some asd interview and testing when I am objecting. Wow. I walked out of the first therapist's office feeling relieved like maybe the world wasn't against me and I could socialize again.

Now I've been monitoring myself, looking at myself through the eyes of my ****ing mother. Everything I've done has been analyzed and inflated and then made to look as though my reaction to growing up under my mothers roof, wanting to retreat, is all a problem of the brain not of the household I was raised in.

This just puts me further into a depression. I feel like I don't have a voice. My perspective hasn't mattered for the longest. Can anyone explain to me what the symptoms are of high functioning g autism or aspergers? Because I am sure I don't have it.

[gonegirl99]

Oh yeah and the funny thing is that we were both given a sheet to fill out for asd the relative form and the patient form. My mother refuses to answer the questions but kept telling me to fill the sheet out.

[chris12]

Originally Posted by gonegirl99

Oh yeah and the funny thing is that we were both given a sheet to fill out for asd the relative form and the patient form. My mother refuses to answer the questions but kept telling me to fill the sheet out.

Hi GoneGirl,
Sorry to hear that your Mother is insisting you have ASD. You seem a very bright and capable young lady and it is your life after all. What you make of your life and the support that you feel you need can easily be organised by you.

I know all about being labelled and it is unnecessary regardless, as it does not change the person you are inside and does not evaluate your abilities at all.

Make the best of your skills and abilities and what you love doing as it is your future, your life and you are entitled to do the best you can with it.

/best wishes

Chris 12

[Sunflower123]

You could google aspergers and autism symptoms and see how you stack up. If your mom won't let it go, why not let her waste her money and have you tested by a neutral party. Your mother should have no say in the evaluation. She's biased. You know you don't have it...why not just get tested? When it comes back negative tell your mom you'd like help with the real problems: depression and anxiety. Good luck. Hope you are in a safe place in Houston.

[eskielover]

Get tested & prove your mother wrong. Nothing more satisfying than proving someone like your mom to be wrong. The questions are set up to het to the truth. If your moms answers don't match yours the tester will definitely realize something is up.

I'm sorry you are experiencing this. I struggled through a bad marriage for 33 years. It wasn't until after I left & then studied ASD behaviors did I realize that my Ex-H must be on the spectrum after one of my T's suggested that it might have been a possibility. Attwoods book on the characteristic behaviors of Aspergers is great. It might also reinforce the fact that you don't fall under those behaviors to give you more confidence to stand up against your mom.

I would be looking to get out of living with a mom like that ASAP. Can't imagine living in that kind of environment