[shakespeare47]

I've decided it's time to give them up completely. I know they're not necessary. I can get my point across without losing my temper.

As I mentioned in another thread, when I do lose my temper, I feel like I've lost, and that I've harmed myself. It's just not worth it.

[Michelea]

Good luck on this important endeavor.

[Yours_Truly]

[Thunder Bow]

Losing temper can be assoicated with an unmeet need. Yes, you can get your point across without getting angry.

[shakespeare47]

This is still an issue. I've had a few angry outbursts since I started this thread. Mostly they're centered around self-esteem issues and when I feel strongly about something.

[shakespeare47]

I'm still dealing with this... For example.

[Teddy Bear]

Good luck

[shakespeare47]

I think much of the problem is that I spend a lot of time feeling frustrated (and obsessing over that frustration) about things over which I literally have no control. I cannot control what other people say or do...

What I really want from other people is that they always treat me with respect and that they always at least try to understand my point of view.

What I can work on is dealing with the fact that people don't always treat others with respect... and I have to acknowledge that I've failed in that area as well. I can also work on ways to express my point of view, even when I am misjudged, and I can do that with patience and equanimity.

[shakespeare47]

This is really troubling me. Sometimes I think I'd rather die than continue to have angry outbursts. Even my impatience is troubling, and I spend time thinking about the times I was impatient, and how I could have handled it differently.

[shakespeare47]

Monday night of this week was quite possibly one of the worst nights of my life. I had embarrassing, frustrating encounters with people on Thursday of last week and Monday of this week. I tried drinking "sleepytime" tea and did some journaling about the situations that were troubling me before I went to bed, but I just couldn't sleep. I felt like I was being tortured by my own mind all night long. It probably didn't help that I had a fever. I think I might just have to find better over the counter products to help me sleep in situations when nothing else helps.

Some contributing factors:
I felt guilty for some of my behavior on Monday and last Thursday.
I'm trying to put an end to a habit... and even though I really felt like it, I didn't give in to temptation.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

It sounds like you're doing all the right things. It's true that you have to let go of trying to control other people's behaviour. You won't be able to. Only you're own.