[ArcheM]

Story short: I posted a thread on a site related to my hobby, asking for advice. Just got a comment saying that I'm wasting my time and fantasizing and that I've got a completely different problem I should be fixing.

I'm so angry and at the same time... amused? (which isn't an exact description, but it'll have to do).

I mean, a million emotions. The sheer arrogance, like he's some wise guy who, for one, has got the answer to the, I might mention, non-trivial problem I'm struggling with, and also as if he knows me, actually the way I am.

And the fact that I've worked hard to get to the relatively emotionally stable place I am now, which, surprisingly, involves very little of sitting on my *** and eating boogers.

And I wanted to respond with all that information, but he's got 1000 more posts than me and probably is somebody on that site, so I would expect other members to support him and pile up on me.

I guess this is my best option, this thread.

I'm getting so tired of the Internet, of all the jerks running freely. And you might say that he's an exception. Unfortunately, my activity doesn't generally attract a lot of attention (responses, comments, or what have you), so in that thread there's like one other guy besides me and the jerk. I'm sure that would change if I posted my reply.

I mean, I keep hoping that there's useful responses out there, but apart from this site I'm getting either nonsense or insults (personal or to the senses).

[Skeezyks]

I'm sorry you had that disturbing experience. But I'm not surprised. I basically don't do anything on the internet except for PsychCentral. I have a YouTube channel as well. But I only use it as a place to access music videos I enjoy listening to... (mostly while I'm replying to posts here on PC.) I don't have any subscribers on YouTube. And I never comment on videos.

I've even had some unfortunate incidents here on PC. Members I've never had any interaction with have seen things I posted & left snarky comments. As a result, I don't typically post my own threads, and I don't subscribe in general to the threads I reply to. I simply leave my reply & move on. Once in a while I'll subscribe to a particular thread I'm interested in following. I know I'm over-sensitive. But I can't continue to do what I do, here on PC, unless I protect myself as much as possible.

These kinds of incidents can be disturbing. I hope you find yourself able to recover your inner peace soon.

[Turtle_Rider]

Sadly, internet is full of jerks. I'm agree with The Skeezyks. The best way is to ignore them and move on. Probably just block him. You've done the right thing to not replying him. Internet argument is wasting of time and energy.

Can you find another website for posting your hobby? I believe there are still lots of supportive forum out there. Before I found PC, I've moved from forum to forum due to troll comments or no response. Try to post in other place if one place does not provide answers.

I'm sorry you experienced that. My favorite hobby is pole dancing. You wouldn't believe the negative comments I get. You just have to let it roll off your back and keep doing you. People can be so cruel over the internet, but screw their opinions anyways. I'd love to hear what your hobby is if you are willing to share.

[seesaw]

Thank you for posting this thread. There really are a lot of bullies on the internet. It seems to bring out people's inner bully. They think because they aren't face to face with the person that they can be extraordinarily harsh with them, and that it's okay. That it's not another human being who deserves compassion and respect at the other end of the wires.

Do your best to let it roll off your back. Maybe see if you can post your question here in one of the subforums and get more helpful feedback.

The worst response to someone's question about something they are struggling is to be invalidating and judgmental. Unfortunately that happens even here sometimes but I have heard that this site is better than most.

Seesaw

[ArcheM]

It's so much better! ...But I guess I am better here, too. I take into account that people are struggling if I decide to post, which... well, since I don't really post outside of here it's hard to compare.

On the other hand, I keep thinking that maybe that jerk is a teenager who really does think that he's got it all figured out. Which... well, I've been that teenager.

Anyway, well, the hobby is game development and it's a pretty specialized topic... I mean, maybe it's not so much a specialized topic at this point, but it's an extremely broad field with a lot of niches (and I'm in one of the remotest ones). So asking for help here is kind of... desperate.

But I've been getting into writing things down by hand and walking, and that seems to get creative juices going.

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by ArcheM

It's so much better! ...But I guess I am better here, too. I take into account that people are struggling if I decide to post, which... well, since I don't really post outside of here it's hard to compare.

On the other hand, I keep thinking that maybe that jerk is a teenager who really does think that he's got it all figured out. Which... well, I've been that teenager.

Anyway, well, the hobby is game development and it's a pretty specialized topic... I mean, maybe it's not so much a specialized topic at this point, but it's an extremely broad field with a lot of niches (and I'm in one of the remotest ones). So asking for help here is kind of... desperate.

But I've been getting into writing things down by hand and walking, and that seems to get creative juices going.

That's great. I'm glad you're feeling better about it. FYI there are some game developers on here.

I think you have a good attitude, yes they may well be a teenager who 'knows it all', or even someone older who really should know better but doesn't because they have poor social skills.

I find this quote helpful:

[ArcheM]

Originally Posted by seesaw

That's great. I'm glad you're feeling better about it. FYI there are some game developers on here.

Yeah. But I haven't seen them engage in a lot of discussion about that... I mean, this forum wasn't meant to be a one-stop destination for all your internet needs... That's Facebook.

[MickeyCheeky]

Try to ignore this kind of people. Unfortunately, you're going to deal with them eventually..

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by ArcheM

Yeah. But I haven't seen them engage in a lot of discussion about that... I mean, this forum wasn't meant to be a one-stop destination for all your internet needs... That's Facebook.

I hope that's a joke about FB! Lol. I loathe it.

[FallDuskTrain]

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

I think you have a good attitude, yes they may well be a teenager who 'knows it all', or even someone older who really should know better but doesn't because they have poor social skills.

I find this quote helpful:

I have this quote as a sticker on my car

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

I think you have a good attitude, yes they may well be a teenager who 'knows it all', or even someone older who really should know better but doesn't because they have poor social skills.

I find this quote helpful:

((((((((( hugs ))))))))))

[BlueCrustacean]

That guy sounds like he was really talking about himself. Like you said, he knows literally nothing about you as a person, so for him to say all that is very strange. Personally, I like to call these people out on behavior like that.

I had a similar experience on a game development Facebook group. I asked a simple question, and got a helpful response, and then a second response being very rude and blunt, saying that I took a horrible screenshot or asked a stupid question or whatever, I forget the specifics. I told him that he could have actually helped me, without being so rude. He responded with more rudeness and even some sexism, saying that I should be useful and cook something (because it was Facebook and he could tell I'm a girl). I called him out for being a sexist troll, and lamented that people online think that it's okay to be openly rude and insulting when giving "feedback". I closed Facebook and didn't bother to read any more responses and went to bed.

Apparently, my notifications told me there were a lot of responses from various people on that thread, but they were all removed. I also got a personal message from one of the admins on that Facebook group apologizing to me for my negative experience, and that he kicked out the trolls and offered his own help for any further questions I have. He was nice.

Anyway, my point being, there seems to be some negative, aggressive energy in gaming cultures, as well as many other areas of the internet, so don't let it bother you too much. They're insecure and looking for somebody to pick on besides themselves.