[pinkvilla]

I recently joined a social media chat group which is a group of friends from school. Everybody said hello but some people who were close in college to me weren't as friendly as expected. I felt so disappointed with the conversations. How do I not let it get to me? Does this happen after a while that you are not so friendly anymore?

[wordshaker]

People do just let us down sometimes and it could be lots of things from jealousy to just-plain-meanness to oblivious misunderstandings and disconnections. Maybe they're motivated by some superficial aspect they detect you're not a part of any longer. Who the f knows.

Feelings can also be misinterpreted online. At one point in life something like this would bother me... was I overbearing?... did they never like me?... am I a freak?... a parriah?... not part of the zeitgeist? Now I just really let these things go because I realize it's very likely not about me, and I probably won't ever know, and I'm pretty happy with how I am so I'm okay with that. I'd suggest just moving on and direct your attention to real people in your life now, people who get you or who you really love.

[Thunder Bow]

Remember it is Social Media. Thus it not quite the same as real life.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by pinkvilla

I recently joined a social media chat group which is a group of friends from school. Everybody said hello but some people who were close in college to me weren't as friendly as expected. I felt so disappointed with the conversations. How do I not let it get to me? Does this happen after a while that you are not so friendly anymore?

Aww I'm sorry this has happened. I think it is very common unfortunately. In fact, it has happened to me so often that it doesn't bother me anymore. It is like I'm immune to it, I'm so used to it and I'm actually surprised when someone I used to talk to years earlier is very nice to me and acts like they still like me as much as they did then. I'm like, wow, you still like me? Awesome. But yeah, I know how disappointing it is. Find new friends that will not let you down.

[Barnogai17]

I'm so sorry this happened. Try giving them a chance in how they speak to you. You will see a difference if you can agree on things