First off, I was alone for eight years and managed to cope quite well. Sure, I was emotionally empty being alone, but never was it problematic. Not even four months has gone by since my boyfriend and I have moved in together. He is away for the week on an assignment for work - and I am absolutely miserable.

I am dealing with an emptiness that is new to me. I am feeling trapped by it. There are other emotions too. I am quite anxious about being alone. Am I safe? Turning in at night has been difficult as I am faced not only with the prospect of being apart but I am frightened of something bad happening. I am 'performing' some obsessive compulsions (if I put this sock on first nothing bad will happen, if I touch the door repeatedly I will be safe, etc) It all is unpleasant.

How do others cope with a similar situation? (three more nights to go)

[MickeyCheeky]

Don't you have anyone else that can help you feel less lonely for a while? Friend, family member?

[DoroMona]

I think what you're feeling is natural. Is there anything you like to do that he's not into? My mom is similar and hates it when my father travels. I always suggest that she treat it like a chance to just indulge herself in what she likes--to get some Chinese takeout, watch her kind of movies, hang out with friends, etc. Maybe you can turn it into a positive thing. Alternatively, maybe you can channel your anxiety into something--learn how to cook something he likes or similarly prepare some kind of surprise for him, when he's back? Or pick a hobby you've wanted to develop or have neglected and spend your free time working on it?

[Aviza]

Work on something you like to do but haven't really focussed on lately.

Thanks all of you.

Aiviza - I pulled out some art supplies and it was a great distraction for the time being. You are motivating me to pull the project out again and do some reworking.

Perhaps a reason I cling to him is that I am otherwise isolated. i don't know anyone else in the city which is new to me.

Indulging my senses could be an answer. Chinese food sounds just the thing for tonight and I haven't had a bubble bath for eons.

Thanks friends!