Are You Feeling Shame?

For all kinds of reasons, we can end up dealing with shame.

Here is a TEDTalk, given by Brene Brown, on "Listening to Shame:"

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brow...ening_to_shame

I hope this video is helpful.


WC

I have watched all of Brene Brown's videos. I really like what she has to say & how she says it

I used to feel guilty a lot. Then I realized probably half of the guilt I felt was actually shame.

i feel shame when wake up in my primary alter of girl and see another girl in my bed so know i was my secondary boy alter with her before sleeping

I think the definitions are key to understanding the difference:

Guilt- feeling bad about something you have done. (That was a stupud thing I did)

Shame- saying you are a bad person because of something wrong you have done. (I'm stupid because I did....)

I had a hard time understanding the difference before nailing down the definitions

"vulnerability is not weakness"; that is one message from the talk. Thanks for sharing WC. She is not my favourite presenter or maybe the topic is just uncomfortable so I listen only in bits at a time, but she does have some important messages.

I was planning to move in with him in June. But he wants me to move down there and my therapy people all say I have to stay up here. Including my best friend because my daughter and support system is up here. Mom knew that. Said she saw too many red flags and broke us up.

Sounds like they are all using their wise mind while you were using only the emotional part of yiur mind. Sometimes things work out for the best. I wish I had paid attention to the red flags I saw before I got married. It wiuld have saved me from 33 years of living in hell before I was able to finally leave.