[Aviza]

Well I think it's really over. I'm on a BBW website and getting lots of attention but nobody good. He was better. I sometimes think my mom just wants me to be alone. So I stay dependant on her. I really hate my life. I'm getting depressed. I really loved him he looked better after dating me than his icky profile picture. I took good pictures of him and sent some to him I'm certain he'll use one in his new profile photo. I don't want to let him go yet i don't want to fight for him because I know he has big problems and mom is right.

I'm just really struggling with this relationship. I miss him terribly. I love him dearly. I think my mom rushed the end and that's the problem. I wanted to go see him but outside pressures prevented it. I'm so depressed now. I really don't want to be alone. I don't want to move out on my own. Than I'll be even more alone. I just want to be allowed to make my own decisions.

[divine1966]

What’s BBW?

I think you should be able to make your decisions when you are independent, on your own and not living in parents house. Your mom told you you can be with him but you have to move out. It is a reasonable request. I dont think it’s your mom’s fault.

[~Christina]

Why not spend some time without a man in your life and work on yourself and focus on moving out.

If you can’t afford a place by yourself there is always a roommate situation.

That’s what my daughter has...... a roommate. Cheap for both of them.

Work on yourself and you will attract better quality men.

Originally Posted by divine1966

What’s BBW?

I think you should be able to make your decisions when you are independent, on your own and not living in parents house. Your mom told you you can be with him but you have to move out. It is a reasonable request. I dont think it’s your mom’s fault.

Big beautiful women (usually obese).

I agree, your mom's request is not outlandish to me.

[Aviza]

Telling me to move in with him or breakup after 5 months of dating is outlandish. Calling me a prostitute for wanting to go see him. Telling me she will kick me out and disown me if i go. She is not right in her behavior. She's childish.

[divine1966]

Calling you a prostitute is totally uncalled for.

But other requests are not unreasonable.

You weren’t properly dating. You were living with her during the week then on the weekend driving to live with a man, then she was within her rights to tell you to move there full time.

If my daughter lived with me because she can’t afford to be on her own, yet had money for gas, and time and energy to drive to men’s houses, I’d also suggest she moved out.

If I moved in with my parents, I’d spend free time working saving money so I can move out, not driving to see men. Dating is very time and money consuming especially if you are driving staying with people over night. Perhaps she thinks you need to spend that time getting independence not spending time on men. I don’t know if she knew about him being sexually violent with you against your will, but she maybe senses that he is not to be trusted.

If you want to live your own life without mom’s interference, you got to be in your own.

[tecomsin]

You and your Mom have a difficulty with boundaries. She is totally out of line to call you insulting names, but she is within her rights to ask you to move out if you are living in a way that upsets her. Is there anyway you can have a talk with your Mom and compromise?

[Hairball]

Just food for thought, you had stated you didn't want to be alone when you moved out so you would like to move in with him. Its not a guarantee that he would split the bills like he should be, and maybe even move out leaving you stranded. I guess a female roommate might do the same but is less riskier in my opinion.