[Aviza]

I'm missing him a lot but even my best friend was starting to dislike him because he wouldn't budge on seeing me. It turned into me having to go to him all the time, and that's when the relationship ended. My mom wouldn't let me go unless I was moving in with him, and I'm trying to listen to her because she's been right before. But I hate the way she goes about it.

I hate being single I've been single basically since I've been crazy. Throughout my 30's I was single, now in my 40's I've dated a couple guys. But it hasn't been good. I know I need to focus on independent living but the best way for me to be independent from my mom is when I'm in a relationship with a guy.

Housing is costly here and affording it on my own is super difficult. But with a guy it would be a lot easier. He was supposed to be the guy. Now I'm looking at renting a room which I really don't want to do. Just because it might save me 100 bucks a month. For that I"d rather have a cheap apartment.

Housing really matters to me, I grew up in a super nice house. I have expectations of places that makes it that much harder for me. I can't just take any old place. I'm a house snob.

It sounds like alongside wanting companionship, you want a partner to help you with financial things so you can move into a place of your liking? Wanting a partner for their money is not a good base for a relationship. I would highly encourage you to perhaps lower your housing standards a bit, and look for a cheap bachelor or 1 bedroom apartment to rent, or even a place with a roommate. Work on becoming self-sufficient, without the help of a man.

[Aviza]

Apartments won't let me rent 1 bedroom because I have a daughter who may spend the night once in a while. Subsidized housing will only rent me a 1 bedroom because she isn't with me 50% of the time. I'm on a list for subsidized but it's a long wait. I'm frustrated with my mom for interfering in my relationship, and want to be out on my own. At the same time I can't afford yet to move out because it's so costly.

[MickeyCheeky]

Well, if you want to start become indipendent, moving to a cheap apartement is your best solution right now.. you won't have to live there forever, you can save money to go to a better place when you feel more stable.

[Aviza]

He contacted me on his lunch break. I'm struggling a lot with him, and wanting to see him. I know if I get involved again my mom's health will be at stake. I don't know why I desire being with him when I know logically he's not right for me.

[divine1966]

You can’t be house snob if you can’t afford it. It’s not your mom’s fault he never wants to come see you. Don’t look for a man to help with bills.

Focus on what’s important now.

[~Christina]

As I said on your other thread if you move out or decide to live with this guy and everything falls apart will your mom take your back ? If not what will you do then ?

[Aviza]

Mom would take me back if she's alive. Even if She says no she will. She always has in the past.