[Aviza]

I told my mom that she was verbally abusing me during a fight because she was saying mean, hurtful, awful things that had nothing to do with the reason for the fight. I think I hit a nerve, I was really just stating it as a fact not trying to get at her because I had told her to stop numerous times. We haven't fought since, but I really hope she stops being so disrespectful. She's been that way since I was young, but it took me all these years to speak up about it.

I told my therapist what I said. She asked a few questions, and said I handled it well that it seems I am using my dbt skills. Which I am finding quite helpful. I have said they give me a voice, they help me to speak my mind in a way that's understood. She said I used the one about self respect. Dear Fast. I need that skill a lot, I'm very disrespected in my family since I'm the one that "cracked". I used to be respected by my younger brother but not anymore. Dbt is helping me regain some of that back in a healthy way.

I really recommend it for anyone who gets the opportunity to take dbt therapy. It's teaching me a lot of skills, and it's helping me make better decisions. I would have run off with my ex and been married by now soon to be on divorce #4. DBT is really a life saver. It's not easy following wise mind but I'm glad I've learned about it.

[carcrashonrepeat]

I'm sorry to hear this. It sucks so bad. And it only makes things worse for everyone.

Was this the first time you spoke to her about her behavior? Does she treat anyone else in your family like this?

The way you handle it is amazing, though. The last therapist I saw recommended DBT to me.I've procrastinated about finding treatment but this has inspired me to become proactive. Thank you so much.

[Aviza]

Definitely recommend it.

[dlantern]

Thanks that is good information regarding DBT