I keep feeling like everyone is better than me. I feel like a loser compared to everyone else. I hate feeling like this. Most people I feel like a loser compared to. It doesn't matter if they're some stranger to me. I get this feeling that I'm just a loser compared to everyone else. I feel like I'm not good enough and I just want to feel like I am good enough.

[ShadowGX]

I know it's easier said than done because I struggle with this too, but please be kinder to yourself, even if in little seemingly meaningless ways to start. I'm finding that over time it gets a bit easier.

[mote.of.soul]

Yes. I have the same inner voice telling me and sending me negative messages as well, ExplodingSun56. Can definitely relate to your post. All I know is that it's an illusion. A difficult illusion to deal with, sure, but an illusion nevertheless. If you can see your life objectively then you'll see that those feelings are misplaced. Let go, constantly, if need be.

[MickeyCheeky]

I feel the same way but I'm sure that's not true for yourself. It's just your self-esteem talking for you.. maybe work on that?

I have a really hard time dealing with disapproval from other people. Thats why I'm really shy around people. I want someone who approves of me and supports me. I want someone to help me feel good about myself. If someone in my life could keep reminding me that I'm awsome I feel like that would help me. But I'm afraid to ask for something like that because I don't think people want to tell me I'm awsome when I'm feeling bad about something. I just want reassurance from people who are close to me or a good friend to help me back up when I'm feeling down. Is it too much to ask for that? Because I feel like it is. That's all I want.

Another thing is I want to go up and talk to someone but no matter how much I want to I can't do it. I imagine the worst thing happening. Like if I somehow come off to someone in the wrong way then they'll say bad things about me to other people and then everyone will avoid me and that's my worst fear is everyone avoiding me like I'm some terrible person. That's why I want to go somewhere else that's not near home and try talking to people because it might be easier. Probably won't help at all though.

[BLUEDOVE]

Try this psychotherapist book:"The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem",
by Nathaniel Branden--the guy is brilliant!

Originally Posted by BLUEDOVE

Try this psychotherapist book:"The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem",
by Nathaniel Branden--the guy is brilliant!

I actually just finished reading this book on shyness and social anxiety and I understand what it's saying but after reading it I don't think I'll be able to get past this at least not without some help. It has stuff about self esteem in it.

Just forget what I said everyone. It doesn't matter. It's stupid. I just feel like an idiot now for posting this.

[hprodf]

No need to feel shame in posting this. The problems of your insecurities are common in everyone. Maybe not to the same extremes, but everyone has their own issues. That leads me to the next point, as an individual you have to understand that you're going to have your own strengths and weaknesses. Understand these and accept yourself for who you are, it's important to do this.

On the flip side, there's nothing stopping you from growing a learning new skills. If you wish you could do something, then take action and start learning to do it. It'll take time and patience, but the rewards will be totally worth it

Yeah we all have are strengths and weaknesses. I just tend to focus on my weaknesses and start feeling bad about myself. Makes it really hard to feel good about myself when other people are criticizing my weaknesses and putting me down and not supporting me. But I don't really talk to those people anymore. Gotta find the good people and cut the toxic ones out of your life. I don't know why I feel like an idiot sometimes.

Shyness is not a bad trait. Personally I gravitate to quiet and shy people because I am the same way. The self esteem issues are a different thing. I have those too. I tend to walk away from situations regretting much of what I’ve said. I’m trying to work on this... one of the reasons I joined this group.

[Peacelady4]

Be kind to yourself! We are all living with something we wish we could change at some point in life. However, never compare yourself to anyone, because they my not like themselves either. You are a unique individual! Love yourself Please!!! Accept what cant be changed and change what can.

[hprodf]

Originally Posted by ExplodingSun56

Yeah we all have are strengths and weaknesses. I just tend to focus on my weaknesses and start feeling bad about myself. Makes it really hard to feel good about myself when other people are criticizing my weaknesses and putting me down and not supporting me. But I don't really talk to those people anymore. Gotta find the good people and cut the toxic ones out of your life. I don't know why I feel like an idiot sometimes.

Well, you're taking an important step forward by cutting out the negative people and trying to be around positive people.

The next step is building your confidence to help you focus on your strengths and not put yourself down.

I'd suggest having a watch of my first video on my Youtube channel, Happy Facts Lifestyle, as it focuses on building confidence. It's a pretty rough video if I'm honest (being my first one and even now I'm learning), but hopefully the suggestions in it are useful and will help.