Is it wrong to feel to much

BeautifulDiaster23 · May 21, 2018, 08:35 AM

How do I cope with my feelings when I feel everything all the time ? Someone can breathe and it upsets me. I can't help but feel what others feel. I can't help the switch in my head stay off instead of feeling everything. My moods are everywhere all day long ! I can't even get peace in my sleep because my dreams are affecting me now too. What do I do ?

Skeezyks · May 21, 2018, 01:14 PM

Honestly I don't know the answer to this.

Thunder Bow · May 22, 2018, 01:02 PM

Talk about your feelings with a Therapist.

BLUEDOVE · May 23, 2018, 04:43 PM

Try this group in F/B: Highly Sensitive People.

chelsee · May 23, 2018, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by BeautifulDiaster23

How do I cope with my feelings when I feel everything all the time ? Someone can breathe and it upsets me. I can't help but feel what others feel. I can't help the switch in my head stay off instead of feeling everything. My moods are everywhere all day long ! I can't even get peace in my sleep because my dreams are affecting me now too. What do I do ?

I don't know. But I do know thinking too much and feeling everything too much is a big problem for me as well. You'll probably find answers that involve cognitive reconditioning; learning to recognize when you are obsessing more than is comfortable for you and redirecting your mind to another place, preferably a task doing something with you hands or picking up a word game, mindlessly searching for words or go fold clothes, fiddle in the garden, play w/ a pet if you are lucky enough to have one. They key is to redirect, to turn off your mind from that endless loop. I do it, too and find I do better when I consciously turn that track off and take my mind elsewhere.

nicoleflynn · May 24, 2018, 06:50 AM

There is a book for HSP's....highly sensitive people....I am one,also.

My Paper Heart · May 27, 2018, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by BeautifulDiaster23

How do I cope with my feelings when I feel everything all the time ? Someone can breathe and it upsets me. I can't help but feel what others feel. I can't help the switch in my head stay off instead of feeling everything. My moods are everywhere all day long ! I can't even get peace in my sleep because my dreams are affecting me now too. What do I do ?

I am the same exact way. I get amazingly enraged at just hearing a specific person's name. I adopt the mood of whoever I'm talking to, but the second I change who I'm talking to my mood changes as well. Everything seems to affect my moods and usually it's to piss me off.

Unfortunately, there's no quick/good answer.

Most importantly, see a therapist specifically to work on skills for the issues. Once you have skills to deal with the day-to-day issues, you can work with them on the bigger picture stuff.

For me, I'm finding small things that work. I found a small chain tassel at the craft store that I keep in my pocket and when I see that I'm starting to get pissed or overwhelmed by my emotions, I'll just start feeling the chains in my pocket. It sort of helps ground me.

So far I haven't found anything to help the whole adopting someone else's mood thing. But that's a whole lot easier for me to deal with than the tidal wave of emotions. The problem is, once those emotions start to overwhelm me, anything and everything sets me off. If I can find a way to stop the emotions from becoming overwhelming, I think things can become much more manageable.

hprodf · May 30, 2018, 07:07 AM

I would highly recommend looking into meditating to try and help cope with this. It has amazing benefits and could be really useful.

katydid777 · May 30, 2018, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by BeautifulDiaster23

How do I cope with my feelings when I feel everything all the time ? Someone can breathe and it upsets me. I can't help but feel what others feel. I can't help the switch in my head stay off instead of feeling everything. My moods are everywhere all day long ! I can't even get peace in my sleep because my dreams are affecting me now too. What do I do ?

I my self don't believe it is wrong to feel too much, but this is also one of my great issues. I have always been a giver, and it has caused me a lot of grief. I have always treated people the way I want them to treat me, but the unfortunate thing about this, is most people are not like this, and there have been so many times in my life that I have been taken advantage of. Do you have a therapist? This would be a very good thing to talk with one about. I don't know how old you are, but I am in my 50's, and have been this way all of my life. In the past couple of years I have learned that being this way has been very damaging to my MH. I am seeing a therapist, and a Pdoc. and they, along with this site have taught me so much about my self, and if I want to be happy for the rest of my years, I have to do some changes in my life. I hope you are still young enough where you will have joy in your life once you get your issues dealt with. Also this site has been a very large help to see many of my flaws, and I am working on them. Keep checking the diffrent forums here, and if you don't have a therapist, you might consider getting one to help.

Fuzzybear · Jun 01, 2018, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Honestly I don't know the answer to this.

Jun 01, 2018, 10:00 PM

I don’t think it’s a matter of wrong or right. It’s your wiring. It’s who you are. I can walk into a room and literally feel everybody’s mood. It’s exhausting. I’ve had to work hard at this for many years. I have gotten better at separating logic from emotions when it comes to my sensitivity. It took a lot of journaling, talking about it with people I trust and practicing new behaviors. Just make sure you keep firm boundaries and don’t let people take advantage of you.

LEARN2018 · Jun 05, 2018, 02:13 PM

I can't relate exactly, but I do know its very difficult when I seem to automatically take on other peoples problems, etc. I think realizing that you struggle with being too sensitive is a good first step to improving! I also think that it is important to remember that being sensitive and having empathy can be a good thing when you can learn to manage it. I hope you find something that helps you!

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