Sad I couldn't be what he wanted me to be

I'm working through a breakup and just need to share that I'm feeling really, really sad that I wasn't able to be what my bf wanted me to be... I was too broken because of my past. I know I couldn't have been any different or done anything differently, but I'm just sad... Just needed to get that out...

Be what You want to be. Not what someone else wants you to be. You will feel much better.

I realize my first post could be interpreted badly... He liked what he saw of my personality, just wanted me to be more open and present. I just wasn't ready...

I’m sad HE couldn’t love you as you are…. Broken can also mean, on the mend. Not being more open and honest==well, it takes time. Time is the friend to relationships. If someone isn’t willing to put in the time—maybe they are not worth it. I’m sorry you are sad, though. Don’t beat yourself up. You deserve someone who loves you ‘as is,’ warts and all!

Thank you, SeekerSeeking! The relationship triggered past traumas in me and I got completely tangled up in them... Couldn't tell my bf what was going on because I hardly understood it myself, and also thought he'd leave me if he knew how messed up I was. He did stick it out for a good while, but I do understand he couldn't remain in a relationship with someone so unwell and unable to talk about it. I am glad, though, that the relationship brought down my defenses. It was the one good thing to come out of it, that I was then able to go to therapy to deal with and heal my traumas so that one day, I'd be able to have a better relationship. For that, I am grateful.

Sorry to hear you are having a hard time coping with your breakup.

I'm sorry that you are in pain.

Thank you for sharing your sadness. I hope it made you feel better.

Thank you, WasabiAlmonds! Sharing really did help