[Marylin]

I am struggling again with being alone and isolated and it doesn't help that I have the common cold.I tried to find support in a group on facebook,I express concern at being alone and explained I have never had a partner and I want companionship.One nasty woman commented,like this,'Wow what a big thing to admit to wanting a partner,what would this person be called to you,'MY KING'.
I replies saying she didn't have to make such an overt dig at me and there was no need to be so nasty.I didn't say I wanted a partner I said I want companionship,and it was nasty to imply there was nothing more to me than wanting a man who I would look up to like he was King.I felt so humiliated and minimised being spoken to like that.I am not interested in comment from people who see this as not being intended to be demeaning cos I think I interpreted her tone and meaning quite accurately.She has stereotyped me as a desperate sado that craved a man with no idea of what a real relationship entailed and it was just plain nasty!I can't use facebook for support you get nastiness or two seconds comments and that's it.

I am still left isolated,I do get out and I do chat socially with others but I have no lasting friendships,sometimes I like that cos I get to keep my privacy and people can't comment on me and my life.But sometimes I need someone to bring home and share my sad times and happy times with but I get this needs discussing with my therapist.I have always preferred to be alone because I struggle with boundaries and being safe.Like on facebook I took the risk to be vulnerable and got hurt.I need to ask my therapist how to protect myself.

[Marylin]

It brought back memories of in the past when I have confided in people and they have broke my confidence and gosspied about me behind my back and shamed and humiliated me over it in public and turned me into a laughing stock.This incident on facebook triggered my PTSD over that,and I am getting flashbacks and emotional memories from the past.It hurts and there is only me to share it with,I need to self comfort,self nurture and self validate and console.I am crying now and I also have runny eyes because I have a common cold.I texted a couple of people but they didn't reply ,one did,but she isn't reliable to comfort nor do I know if she cares,she is my sister but she is a narcissist who abused me for years and made me ill with her toxicity.Yet she has been nice tonight and said some kind words over me having a cold and feeling miserable.People contradict themselves sometimes,who'd have thought it?

[Skeezyks]

I'm sorry you're hurting. I'm not on Facebook. Facebook scares me. If I did ever decide to go on Facebook, it would be under an assumed name. I wouldn't want anyone I've ever known to find me. I'm not completely alone since I'm still married. (My wife's accomplishment... not mine.) But beyond that I'm a recluse in real life... no extended family, no friends nor even acquaintances really, by choice. It works for me because I'm old. I couldn't recommend it for younger people.

Have you considered signing into The Haven now that it has become affiliated with PsychCentral? I don't really know anything about it. I've thought about trying it out myself. But I dislike signing into places on the internet & then finding there's nothing there for me. And one problem I've always had has been that I never seem to be able to find anyone I can really relate to. It is true too, though, that I tend to keep people at arm's length. So I suppose it's my own fault to some extent.

Anyway... I'm just rambling here. I am glad your sister was able to come up with some kind words for you. Yes... people can certainly contradict themselves from time-to-time. Hope you begin feeling better soon... both physically & emotionally.

[downandlonely]

I don't think Facebook is a good place to go for support. People say all kinds of nasty things on there. Personally, I go to a real life support group for people with mental illnesses. It really helps me to talk to others who are going through similar things, and no one judges me, because they have all experiences similar things. I don't know if there are groups like that in the UK, but you might try looking into it.