[Aviza]

I'm still mad about a missed childhood experience. My choir went to Disney World to perform. My parents said I didn't give them enough notice to go. I had a solo, did fundraising all year. They were on vacation when I got told the balance so I called to tell them and they said no.

The memory got brought up because my daughter will be going to Disney Land in February for her Symphony. I'm excited for her and still angry at my parents for not letting me go on what was a great experience for the rest of the class. I was stripped of my solo had to sit there.

That was an opportunity of a lifetime my parents were jerks and didn't let me go. They had money they just didn't want me to travel without their supervision, they feared kidnapping and stuff. My mom says they just didn't have it in the budget. Like they couldn't have used a credit card. It was 350 dollars in 1991. A trip the school did every three years. I know I talked about it.

My dad made money and saved money. And wouldn't let me go. No matter how much time passes I can't forgive them for that.

[MickeyCheeky]

Sorry that you're still upset about this. Is this the only thing you're angry at your parents? I feel like there may be deeper issues...

[Hannah86]

That sucks. I’ve never been to Disney either

[avlady]

Maybe letting your daughter go will make you feel differrent.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Aviza

I'm still mad about a missed childhood experience. My choir went to Disney World to perform. My parents said I didn't give them enough notice to go. I had a solo, did fundraising all year. They were on vacation when I got told the balance so I called to tell them and they said no.

The memory got brought up because my daughter will be going to Disney Land in February for her Symphony. I'm excited for her and still angry at my parents for not letting me go on what was a great experience for the rest of the class. I was stripped of my solo had to sit there.

That was an opportunity of a lifetime my parents were jerks and didn't let me go. They had money they just didn't want me to travel without their supervision, they feared kidnapping and stuff. My mom says they just didn't have it in the budget. Like they couldn't have used a credit card. It was 350 dollars in 1991. A trip the school did every three years. I know I talked about it.

My dad made money and saved money. And wouldn't let me go. No matter how much time passes I can't forgive them for that.

I had a similar experience. I had a teacher who had became obessed with me and because of her I was tear and got very sick show up to school. My instinct said class field trip I was trick into on a field that afternoon and I had to wait all day alone on while everyone else went on the trip. I was deeply humiliated. It been over twenty years I am still humiliated

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Hannah86

That sucks. I’ve never been to Disney either

I never been to Disney either I hope to someday

[healingme4me]

I've actually been to the ticket counter at DisneyWorld. It was my dad, my paternal grandparents and myself. I remember it was a jaw drop moment before we turned around and ended up at Bush Gardens instead. I cannot quite recall if price or something else. If price, who doesn't research these things? I really loved the Gardens in lieu of. I digress.

I've had several things more as it relates to my feelings towards both my parents as I am in the midst of parenting. Some headscratching, others purely WT*bleep*? Or the expressions, Really?! And, Seriously?!

All these years, I've not really had any deep desire for Dinsney. A great deal of many other places and adventures I find enormously more interesting and enjoyable.

It's great that you can and are sending your daughter on this trip!

[WishfulThinker66]

Warning - I am going to take a hard stance here.....

As a child I didn't get to attend a lot of school activities because either my parents couldn't afford it or for some reason or another they felt it inappropriate. I can recall having to sit in the bleachers watching my classmates take swimming lessons. I can recall sitting alone in a classroom doing school work while my classmates were on a field trip.

By 12 I was working and was paying my own way for such activities.

The original poster suggested the trip was 'only $350 in 1991 terms. That was a lot of money. Are they so sure their parents actually could afford it. And to say they could have put it on a credit card seems outrageous to me. Does the original poster not realise that that money still needs to be paid? Also, I ask, what did the original poster do to earn their own way to attending the trip? In what way could the poster have been self-sufficient and responsible for they themselves attending? Yes, it all is unfortunate and I would have been super upset too, but I think doth protest too much.

[Aviza]

My dad made good money. They didn't let me go because they weren't in charge of me there. That amount was a fraction of his paycheck and mom was working too at the time. Thinking back I really thought they'd come through and I should have paid it myself. I could have. But I was stubborn about it. Would have took all my savings and I was saving for a stereo.

Back in the day I started babysitting at 11 or got a paper route so that I can pay for these things by myself because I knew my parents weren’t going to get it for me. But it seems like your parents had another reason - that they were not going to be there to supervise. I’ll Be the last person to side with parents because mine were narcissistic and abusive-but it seems like part of the issue is that they were worried about you being unattended. Disney is a big place. Very easy for a kid to get lost. It’s also not as great as people seems to think it is. It’s hot, you wait 2 hours to get on a ride, it’s over crowded, food is very expensive and you walk all day. I hope one day you can get over it. Sounds very frustrating to be hanging onto unresolved emotions and maybe there’s more to it than just not being able to go
On the trip.

In Junior high there was a trip to Paris. The rich kids had a great time. The poor kids got to sit in class all day and then hear about it for weeks when the others got back. Now at that point in my life I was introverted and anxiety filled, so even if I could have gone, I wouldnt. However I fault the school for setting up a trip that the majority of kids parents could never afford.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66

Warning - I am going to take a hard stance here.....

As a child I didn't get to attend a lot of school activities because either my parents couldn't afford it or for some reason or another they felt it inappropriate. I can recall having to sit in the bleachers watching my classmates take swimming lessons. I can recall sitting alone in a classroom doing school work while my classmates were on a field trip.

By 12 I was working and was paying my own way for such activities.

The original poster suggested the trip was 'only $350 in 1991 terms. That was a lot of money. Are they so sure their parents actually could afford it. And to say they could have put it on a credit card seems outrageous to me. Does the original poster not realise that that money still needs to be paid? Also, I ask, what did the original poster do to earn their own way to attending the trip? In what way could the poster have been self-sufficient and responsible for they themselves attending? Yes, it all is unfortunate and I would have been super upset too, but I think doth protest too much.

I was the same way.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by 2Loquacious

In Junior high there was a trip to Paris. The rich kids had a great time. The poor kids got to sit in class all day and then hear about it for weeks when the others got back. Now at that point in my life I was introverted and anxiety filled, so even if I could have gone, I wouldnt. However I fault the school for setting up a trip that the majority of kids parents could never afford.

I had a class.field trip but I wasn't in those kind of classes. By the time up on one of those classes before being remove? My teacher wouldn't take us anywhere. I couldn't afford to go anyway.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Aviza

My dad made good money. They didn't let me go because they weren't in charge of me there. That amount was a fraction of his paycheck and mom was working too at the time. Thinking back I really thought they'd come through and I should have paid it myself. I could have. But I was stubborn about it. Would have took all my savings and I was saving for a stereo.

I'm sorry! The field trip my class went on that I was humiliated on when I was banned from the trip. It still bother me today.

[Usagizzz]

That sucks. I don’t like missed opportunities either.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by ColorOutsideTheLine

Back in the day I started babysitting at 11 or got a paper route so that I can pay for these things by myself because I knew my parents weren’t going to get it for me. But it seems like your parents had another reason - that they were not going to be there to supervise. I’ll Be the last person to side with parents because mine were narcissistic and abusive-but it seems like part of the issue is that they were worried about you being unattended. Disney is a big place. Very easy for a kid to get lost. It’s also not as great as people seems to think it is. It’s hot, you wait 2 hours to get on a ride, it’s over crowded, food is very expensive and you walk all day. I hope one day you can get over it. Sounds very frustrating to be hanging onto unresolved emotions and maybe there’s more to it than just not being able to go
On the trip.

That is great advice!I wish I had thought about the unresolved feeling I still have.